Relationship just ended. Feel broker :-(

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I've posted a few times in the last few days. I've posted about feeling that my boyfriend is emotionally unavailable and that I couldn't go on how things were. We finally spoke about it tonight. I told him how I felt and what I wanted out of a relationship and he agreed that things weren't right and said that he felt that 'something was missing' so basically we broke up. I feel terrible. As much I was unhappy I did love him so it does hurt loads.
He tells me that he loves me, loves my company and loves being with me but feels that something is missing. He was really really upset, just as I was. I was open about some of the things I've been bottling up and it seems that he had no idea he was making me feel this way. Makes me wonder if things would have been differently if we had opened up more.

It's quite normal to feel sad. I was like you last Sept. Loved him, but it wasn't quite right. You've invested time and effort into this relationship with a nice person. It is sad when it doesn't work out. He's said that it didn't feel quite right, so please don't torture yourself with what ifs.

Give yourself time to get over it.

When you do meet the right man, then you'll realise just how this relationship was never going to work.

No, things wouldn't have been different. Remember you'd split up with him once before. You've had several threads before your recent several over the weekend. This was never going to work, you weren't right for each other.

Now it's over, which is the best thing. Now you have to learn to spot that someone is emotionally unavailable earlier on and get out earlier when you aren't getting what you need from a relationship.

So to update the thread.... we finally had the talk last night and the relationship has now ended. I feel awful. I finally opened up about how I feel and he was genuinely shocked at some of the things. I think we have both been holding back as much as the other and not letting each other in and this is how it's ended

I actually provided the last update on the wrong post!! Was meant to update a post I did at the weekend.

Hope you're ok OP! Least you managed to get it into conversation with your partner. It was good to have that closure by having that conversation too

It sounds like you’ve both made the right choice.