How do you tell if someone fancy's you?

[orangeistheneworanges]

First time I've been single in years and I have no idea anymore.
I fancy someone but not sure if they are just friendly or fancy me.
I'm driving myself crazy
Without actually telling someone ..how do you know they fancy you?
I'm 34 and feel 12!

God knows! I fancied my current boyfriend. Had no idea if he did me but we chatted a lot and got on well but that is how he is anyway so I put it down to that. Ultimately it turned out he did and it was apparently obvious to a friend who watched us, but neither of us picked up on it ourselves. It ended up coming out in a very frank conversation where we both admitted our feelings.

I'd guess at a man who pays you attention. Goes out of his way to be nice and seek you out. Looks at you (you may not be aware, BF said he used to watch me, I had no idea). Doesn't play games and carries on conversations if messaging. Stuff like that I suppose. Compliments and noticing stuff as well maybe.

I need tips too, unless someone makes a move on me I have no idea if they fancy me, so you’re not alone in it.

That's the thing with me I met him through a friend.
We only socialise as 4 of us.
Although he text me Sunday night for the first time and then invited me to his (with our other two friends on Sunday for drinks)
I had his keys in my pocket and he felt my bum as he was getting them out (but might have been unintentional )
We've had this eye contact when dancing where we just stared for about 10 seconds it was intense.
I feel chemistry but you never know.

Yeah sounds like it!

Orange, he totally fancies you. Just bloody ask him out! Men seem to like confident women

Ask him out, he can only say no.

That sounds like he fancies you.

With some guys I can just tell they like me. They talk to me frequently, and seek me out for a chat. There’s a vibe. Guys who don’t fancy me may also chat a lot but there’s no vibe. I’m not helping here, am I? But I’m not alone in this feeling! DSis and I have discussed it and she can tell too!

The guys in question don’t do anything (I’m thinking of three specific guys at work - I work in a large place so that’s probably about 1% of the men I work with!) and they know I’m married with kids. They don’t flirt. I can just tell. I don’t fancy them.

That probably sounds really up myself!

The eye contact thing sounds promising actually. And the invite. Men do also like confident women. I made the first initial move to staying in touch with my BF, he really liked that and said he liked that I took a risk, as I didn't know how it would pan out, I just hoped.

I was going to say, ask a friend who is good at this stuff. I analysed every bloody thing with a friend of mine who knows about this far more than I do. She was adamant her liked me when I was very unsure. She was right.

I agree it’s in the eye contact. I think if you look somebody in the eyes and you hold each other’s gaze for a few minutes you can usually just tell. It’s like it flashes up in their eyes, like they don’t just look at you but they really SEE you, if that makes sense? I can’t really explain it very well. I used to think I was making this up in my head until I had a conversation with my DH about this - we had worked alongside each other for a few weeks and never really paid each other much notice, until one evening when I came into work all dressed up ready for a night out and he looked at me and it was really intense, like we saw each other properly for the first time. When I mentioned that moment to him he knew exactly what I was talking about and even remembered what I was wearing. And this was at least 10 years into our relationship! So I would say trust your instincts in this. Good luck

Sorry, I meant to say hold each other’s gaze for a few seconds ! Not minutes, that would be seriously weird lol.

Well ime they tell you!

I am not into game playing or "Does he? Doesnt he?" stuff. If a man hasnt go it in him to tell me he likes me then he isnt the man for me. Nothing against shy people, but I am not compatible with someone like that, so they dont cross my radar.

Just ask him out!

I recently met someone a few months ago who I thought fancied me. We seemed to just hit it off. I was getting and giving lots of touches and eye contact. I really felt we had a connection. It felt like something was about to happen and the relationship was building up.

Since Easter it has just stopped. I now feel he has moved on to another work colleague. I'm lucky to get a hello or goodbye now. He asked for my phone number but then never called.

I think there was definite flirting but no real intent for anything serious.

Say "how you doin'?" to him.

You will know. Dead giveaways: he will ask you out or try to kiss you or stare at you. There is all the other more subtle stuff but that's what it boils down to if anything is going to happen.

In my experience the stare means they find you attractive. I have had it from men in relationships or men in positions of authority where i knew nothing would progress.

The stare from women and men is a clue they finds you attractive, but it doesn't mean much really. It's a positive sign, an ego boost but that's it. they may never ask you out, or if you ask them they may turn you down.

You would have to ask him out or wait for him to know if he fancies you because up until then it's window shopping and pretty meaningless. Guys give that look to several women a day because there are so many attractive people..and then there are those who like to flirt anyway with no intention of taking it further whatsoever.

Hi, I joined to reply to this thread.
You never do know and theres always the fear that it's not going to be reciprocal.
In fact I'm in this place with a woman at my local gym now.
Theres an amount of nodding and smiling however since she's wearing an engagement ring if leads to believe shes in a relationship.
I'd estimate were in our 50s (I know I am)
Her early 50s or late 40s me late 50s
It's a struggle as she's immensely attractive.
Bye!