Am I being sensitive?

[Rspu1384]

I’ve noticed my husband gets slightly annoyed when I’m upset. Not anger but seems by his t Me of voice like it’s annoyed him or angered him. I had quite an invasive test today and it all got to me and I have cried when he got in from work, he said “don’t be stupid” “what you crying for bab” in a bit of a pissed off tone.
He hugged me but I felt
Like a nuisance because of his tone of voice. Is it just defence mechanism because he doesn’t know what to do when I’m upset or is he just a prick?

Whenever I was upset my ex used to turn on me, he would kick me when I was down, be nasty to me rather than comfort me, to the point that I would hide from him if I was upset rather than turn to him for comfort. My stepdad used used to do the same thing to my mum. When her mother died he was a complete arsehole to her. They were both pricks, but you're husband probably isn't as his reactions are not as extreme. Unfortunately I have heard of men doing this sort of thing quite often.

Could be learned behaviour, my parents are like this... perhaps he's annoyed that you are upset (annoyed / sad about the thing or situation that is upsetting you) not annoyed with you yourself or your reaction?

Very different from being angry with you.

It sounds like he's annoyed that you need his emotional support.

What's he like in times of stress and difficulty? Is it a two-way street usually, or do you do most of the emotional work?