If you are a suspicious person, how do you get over this when you start online dating?

[WhinePot]

Have name changed for this. I am lucky enough to have had a lifetime full of good relationships but realise now that I've done online dating, that in most cases, I knew the men I was going out with (or they were friends of friends). Only one man I randomly met in a bar (who turned into my husband, now exh) but other than that, all the men were known to me.

I have a new-ish dp from online dating who on the face of it is absolutely perfect for me. We get on like a house on fire, we enjoy spending time together and the chemistry is there but there is something niggling in the back of my mind about whether he is being absolutely truthful with me.

This isn't really a conversation about dp but I wanted to know how women who do OLD manage this. Last year was the first time I've done OLD and I've only just now realised the implications of it and from reading a number of threads on here, it appears there are a lot of people who get quite far down the line only to find out someone is married or in another LTR!

Due to coming across a catfish once, I research every potential OLD via every avenue I can. I will search FB, Instagram, Twitter and Snapchat. I also search Google generally, 192 and Beta House Companies.

Since researching I have discovered a scammer, too many married men to mention and someone who was removed from being a paramedic for not so nice reasons.

Always trust your gut instinct. You will never go wrong with that.

Oh and to answer your question. I am suspicious for a very good reason prior to meeting someone! But usually once I've completed all background checks, then I relax somewhat...well so far as being relaxed during first, second dates etc!

thanks that's really interesting. I have met quite a few people not on any social media and practically impossible to research on the internet (I'm not either so I don't consider this suspicious but it does mean I can't find anything that verifies who they might be!).

There was one man I met on OLD and I was approached by one of his ex girlfriends who told me he was extremely good at cosying up to you and then would steal your money! She had heard via mutual friends that he was trying to get another girlfriend. He too was married btw and other than her telling me, I'm not sure how or when I would have found out. So it's really got me wondering how on earth you can tell as this man was incredibly convincing (we'd done about 4 or 5 dates by then!).