What do your men, think you think, about them?

[ChairmanMeow999]

I know this is MUMSnet, but its an interesting place for a fella to lurk about. Please forgive the intrusion.

I'll tell you what though, reading some threads - we men don't sound very popular at ALL! :(

There's got to be some decent ones out there....?

I started wondering what my Dear Wife, would say about me?

I reckon she'd say: He's lovely, a good Dad, decent earner, loves me, really well hung*, and although he's a bit of a knob at times - I love the bones of him.

*she may replace this paticular bit of bullshit, with - a bit fat.... :/

So come on - how well would your husbands review themselves as partners, and how right would they be??

My husband is a bit thoughtless when it comes to housework however he is amazing at everything else. Hands on Dad. Great lover and life partner and best friend.

Despite that, reading all the shit on here makes me fell like you can never really truly know or trust anyone. :(

He knows this is how I feel. Although maybe he doesn't know quite how highly I rate him as I don't tell him often enough.

My husband would think I think he's not enough,

I genuinely think he feels this way even though he works his arse off comes home and cleans top to bottom without me asking.

I made one comment about not been romantic and he took it so hard upon himself, I think men judge themselves way much more than women do i really do.

He may be hard on himself but I think hes an absolute diamond, probably should say this to him more often!

My husband would look at you and say “WTF are you on about? I think that she thinks that I think that we think that he thinks that what? I married her - I love her, she knows that, you’re over thinking things.”

He wouldn’t even begin to give it headspace. It really pushed to guess what I think of him, he’d probably say something about being permanently up for sex - because that’s a running joke for us!

really well hung*

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My husband would look at you and say “WTF are you on about? I think that she thinks that I think that we think that he thinks that what? confused I married her - I love her, she knows that, you’re over thinking things.”

But what would he think that MN posters would think that you think that he thinks that you think about him?

Op forums are mostly for problems - so of course you get critical views, outrage etc. a lot of the time. Occasionally you'll see s thread like"what made you realise your partner was a keeper" - which h be and a veritable gushfest about the loveliness of mner's husband's and partners.

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I'll tell you what though, reading some threads - we men don't sound very popular at ALL!

As Moralitym says, most people post on here for support at incredibly difficult times. It’s not a place full of people who don’t like men, but a community of people who are ready to support others. It’s only liars, abusers, cheats etc who aren’t popular.

I think my DH knows how much I love, fancy, like and appreciate him. I think he would underestimate how utterly bereft I would be without him.

All good points: ESPECIALLY as you’ve posted this in ‘Relationships’.
In an area dedicated to discussing relationship issues, populated by mainly women, it would be a surprise if there weren’t some comments about men that were less than favourable!

For gender balance, ex wives, stepmothers and mothers-in-law don’t come off too well either so don’t worry too much!

You know, my husband and I once had a conversation where he said (in a slightly dismissive / incredulous way it has to be said!) that I sure did know of a few arsehole men. So, I took him through the list. I was objective and stuck to facts - like the friend I’d visited who’d reached up to the top cupboard, her shirt came up, and I got the full view of the latest kicking she’d received. I said “would you say I was exaggerating about him being arsehole?”. We swapped stories just from our personal lives - us and friends, not friends of friends. And I threw in a fucking disgrace of a woman, too. But at the end of that chat, he did conclude that yeah - as a pair we’d come across far more arsehole men than woman in our own direct experiences. Women abuse men, it’s true and those men should never have that minimised. But 2 men a week are not DYING at the hands of women. I have a husband, father, brother and son. I love men. I know many decent men. Set aside violence and maybe it’s the financial imbalance or societal expectation for women to put up and shut up - I don’t have a doctorate on this, I don’t know. But even if you allowed for the fact that this is a board predominantly populated by women - I think in relationships, there are more arsehole men than women.

There was a lovely thread on here recently, I think it might have been about how women knew they had found the one, but there were so many lovely stories on it with people talking about how great their partners are!