Finally got the courage to divorce but worried I'll never find anyone after 44....

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I think this is the first time I ever started a post here and just wanted to know your views and experiences. I know I have a tough road ahead of me with the divorce but once it's over I'll probably be 45. I have always looked younger than my age, at least 7 years younger. I don't have a large social circle and lost touch with my old friends. For those of you whose tried dating sites, which age do you put if you look younger? If you put your real age, it will reduce the men who do their searches within an age range and I'll end up getting messages from much older ones I won't be interested in. Usually go for men a few years younger than me around 35 or 3-4 years older. I feel like I am never going to find anyone again as I am over 40 and feel so bitter that I couldn't pluck up the courage to leave in my 30's but I know that wasn't the right time for me as our child was much younger then.

Why would you base the beginning of a potential relationship with a lie?

Would you be hgappy if a man who looked younger than his age followed your idea and lied too?

Why use dating sites? How about meeting somebody more naturally? Join a cycling/running club. Go do an evening course. Join a sailing club. Look at the website called meetup and search your area and go along to all the social things. Fill your week and weekend with activities and surely you’ll end up clicking with somebody naturally?

You need to be honest. What’s the point in starting with a massive lie?

It definitely gets harder to find people as you get older but, it’s not impossible. I guess you won’t want want children, which is a massive plus point for a lot of men