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Best friend dismissive/rude since I’ve had a boyfriend. Should I just give up?

4 replies

Cherie33 · 01/05/2019 03:22

A friend of mine that I’ve had since high school has become distant (replying in a few words or not at all) and rude (never ever asking me a single question about how I’ve been, even just polite ‘how are you’ during conversation). Not sure I can be bothered making the effort anymore.

We used to be in continuous contact and had a great friendship but I was always slightly tomboyish and never concerned with dating until meeting my current boyfriend. When I first started dating my partner she was in a relationship that had lasted 2 years, but they broke up due to arguing. Since they have broken up my friend is continuously rude and dismissive to me, she gives me bad relationship advice so I no longer bother asking and she will ignore me for days if not weeks.

I brought up my issues with her 6 months ago and she never replied until I bothered asking a few weeks ago how she was and she just replied ‘I’m fine, you?’.

My partner and I have been living together for 4 years now and we get along pretty well and have a good relationship, over the past few years I have put more effort into my life and I feel that my friend must have only liked me when I was more depressed, single and not accomplishing anything.

What do you think happened with her? Am I right that she only liked me when I felt somehow inferior to her, is she jealous, or could it be depression?

OP posts:
Horsemenoftheaclopalypse · 01/05/2019 03:27

She’s most likely Jealous
And unfortunately you can’t really fix that...

category12 · 01/05/2019 06:03

Did you ever ask her what was going on with her in a nice way? Did your behaviour change a lot when you got together with your boyfriend?

Chamomileteaplease · 01/05/2019 10:18

"Not sure I can be bothered making the effort anymore."

Of course not, why would you?? No reason to continue this relationship. Sounds like the friendship is over.

Spend time with people who make you feel good Smile.

Musti · 01/05/2019 10:43

She's either upset you're not available to her as before or she's jealous that you're in a happy relationship.

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