Ex..reply or not ?

[1875abc]

I left my abusive ex 1 year ago
It was very hard leaving as I felt I was in a abusive cycle which after counselling has got me through
I'm in a happy place, met someone new which although was soon maybe too soon as it's only been a year but he's lovely and so understanding and taking it slow
The abuse was emotional and verbal
Anyway I've blocked and gone no contact as it was the only way
I felt broken and didn't know how I was going to get through it
A year ago I was so low and now I've built my confidence back
Anyway I've had the odd phone call, email (from withheld) so I resorted to blocking
Anyway today I have an email saying he wants me to forward a return form for his Xmas present (from 2017?!) it was an expensive present and in this email he says they've broken
Anyway it's thrown me as he has used another email to email me
I'm torn between sending him the returns (but surely I will have to then receive the item and somehow get to him) to ignoring him thinking well sometimes in life when you split up you lose things! Like I did, I lost myself ! I'm so angry at him for thinking I wanna talk as he says things in it like how are you? Hope you're well etc
I was doing so well but seeing his name has thrown me
Just needed to talk it through
What do you think?xx

You've come this far, so I would say ignore it.
It's probably an excuse anyway.
Would he have heard about the new man on the scene by any chance?

I’d block him on this email as well. It’s May 2019 tomorrow, who’s going to accept a broken item being returned? He needs to save up and get it fixed (if it’s really broken).

Ignore.

Delete delete delete. Under no circumstances should you reply. Don’t even think about it. I’d also change your email addresses and phone number. A pain but he was ABUSIVE. Psychological manipulation is part of that - what do you think he’s trying to do to you now?

Ignore it completely. He, like many abusers (naricssists and the like) was attempting a hoover (because 'how dare SHE walk away from ME'). He is also doing a common thing they do (which has a name I have forgotten) which is to act like nothing bad ever happened between you and you are old chums xD

They will never give you closure, remember that. He is counting on you getting back in touch to get some sort of closure...understanding/an apology/extra conformation that HE is the bad and crazy one ect…

You are a good, worthwhile person and you need to make your own closure. He is an empty pit, a black hole looking to suck you back and destroy you. Don't reply, choose freedom.

Definitely ignore.

Ignore and block.

Also - note that he gets back in touch with you when 1. You have got your confidence back and 2. You have a new bf. Co-incidence? I think not xD

Ignore his messages.

Radio silence from you needs to be maintained. What he is doing here is behaviour known as hoovering; he is trying to suck you back into his dysfunctional world. Do not fall for such attempts.

100% DO NOT REPLY. And see it for what it is. An abusive arsewipe wanting something from you. Why on earth would you do him a favour?!?? And like others have said, this is actuallly about him wanting to gain back control over you. You know he is bad news, stay well clear. Congrats on your great new relationship, focus on him and your own wellbeing and forget about this prick.

OMG thank you so much everyone
I'm so strong now and I can't believe I'm feeling what i am
This time last year, I was the lowest and I don't know how I got through

Do you know what? I have given my response to what I think I should do as if I was writing it to another poster and it's funny how everyone - so far - has said the same...to avoid.

I can see it now I'm away from the abuse. It took me a whole year to become free from him, I would block him but he would email me and I would entertain it. Only this year, i haven't and although it's been hard and sometimes felt like I'm going against my heart, it IS the right thing.

Anyone that is thinking escaping abuse CAN do it
I didn't think I was strong enough and evidently i am

You're right, who would accept it back now?!
And IF they are broken, tough!
So was my confidence - life
Can't get a refund on that

And yes so spot on, he just wants contact I think x

Block the email address he sent it on, delete the email. Think no more about it

And yes spot on
Asking how I am like we are old chums?! lol
I'm angry but in a I can see it in a funny way. I'm not upset just more bemused
HIS head phones are broken, poor him, what a massive inconvenience for him, how hard life must be ???
Hard for me when he used to leave me for days, sulk, refuse to take any blame, gamble away our savings, have such a bad temper on him, scare me by saying things like when I go out he will be gone when I get home....he was horrible

Yeah I will delete and block this email
I know he has a few so doubt it will be the last one so will look at getting a new email too
Rant over, glad I feel so clear
I've always always gone back to him so like my mum said, why would he think I'm serious when I've always gone back ?

Choice one would be to ignore and block. Choice two would be to tell him to take the broken item and insert it into his rectum and jog on.

Good job getting shut of him,

Well done OP for being so strong. It's such a difficult situation to remove yourself from.
Delete and block the email.

Or you could just reply: "12-month warranty lol" and then block and delete.

Miss conduct ! Nearly spat out my gin! (Made a nice pink gin to celebrate my new found freedom)
I started to read it as the second option to reply with his return...
I must admit I am tempted to reply to say that!
But I won't....I've noticed any contact - good or bad is still contact - he doesn't care even if it's ' leave me alone '
It doesn't work
Well it didn't work
Silence seems to have done the trick
And yes that's a good point,12 month warranty!

Nope. Do not reply in any way. Just keep blocking each email address that he uses...

Your mum was blunt but correct. It’s time to show him (and her) that it’s different this time 🌷

1875abc I'm glad I could bring a smile to your face.

You’re an inspiration OP! I’m 10 weeks no-contact, broken, but getting stronger every single day

do not reply in any way ffs.

block and ignore

What is going on with my life
Good for you, keep strong
You can do this
You will have hard days trust me, but you've made this decision for a reason so trust yourself xx