OH works away in London Monday-Friday he earns six figures, but he's very tight with money, we aren't married (he doesn't believe in marriage) but own the house together , I work in health care making much less money but I love the job but the hours are very hard and not child friendly for DD who's 6 they require me to work shifts. I've been working most weekends have had 1 weekend off in 6 months so I have hardly seen him my dad recently had a heart attack so he can't assist with childcare , OH won't give me money unless I ask for it and then he mkanw , he pays the mortgage and all the bills apart from food shop, he moans that I work weekends and tells me to get a 9-5 job but they just don't really exist in my line of work and I don't want give up a job I really enjoy doing and I feel is rewarding then moans and says he does a job he doesn't like for the money .
I feel like OH is being so unfair, I've suggested to OH we move down to near London as his family are near there but he says he doesn't know if he will want to stay in his current position and he may move around again to another part of the country if the money is better.
I don't feel like I benefit from OH's salary really, i don't feel like we are a family unit, I've tried to communicate this to him but he just rebuffs my complaints.
I generally love him and he loves me but I'm struggling to see a way out.