Thank you all who responded to my previous post a few weeks ago. In a nutshell I was being used/abused and I walked away.
I met a guy online and he took me out to dinner last week. He treated me with respect, insisted on paying for dinner and was actually interested in me as a person. We had a quick kiss at the end of the night. The day after he invited me to dinner- I stopped the night and we just cuddled all night. Since then he’s wanting to see me constantly. It sounds silly but I’m terrified he’s going to use/abuse me and I’m keeping him at a distance.
There’s been (what I think as) a red flag. He got divorced last year after a five year marriage. His ex wife has a non molestation order against him claiming coercive control. He was upfront about this and says she made the allegations up because she had a drink problem/was mentally unstable. He had a short relationship before me- apparently his ex wife got in touch with her via Facebook. He doesn’t know what was said but his new girlfriend ended things with him immediately citing ‘too much baggage’. He also has a five year old daughter with his ex wife that he’s been granted weekend access to.
The way he acts is spot on, however he’s a bit ‘full on’. When I stopped the night he held me ALL night- now I’m not used to be treated with affection/kindness so it’s very unsettling. He has said he wants a relationship with me and wants to show me how it is to be treated properly (he says I look like a startled rabbit most of the time because I’m so nervous- I’ve been diagnosed with PTSD). He wants to take me to brunch, he wants to wine/dine me and admits he wears his heart on his sleeve...he’s even tried giving me a key to his house but he barely knows me? He’s a soldier and has PTSD too. Should I be wary that he’s rushing things? He met and married his wife very quickly and admits he’s lonely and wants companionship....Please advise...I’m terrified that he might become abusive/controlling xx