Should my friend be "meeting me halfway?"

[StillWaterbird]

Hi,
I would really appreciate some advice here.
The friend in question and I are both at university. Both of us have been having difficulty with MH in some form or another lately. However, I have been receiving university counselling, and while things aren't great, they are looking up.
I have been dealing with isolation (partly due to somewhat introverted personality, partly different interests), and spend a majority of my days alone, so when I'm feeling low I need to reach out to others. (Counsellor and I are discussing social strategies). My friend, on the other hand, has withdrawn completely. She will hardly communicate with me. I text her about once a week but in two months have only heard from her twice. She has apologized and called herself "selfish", yet doesn't really want to communicate.
I feel that although we seem to need different things to improve our mental health, she should meet me halfway. I'm trying to be understanding about her issues, and feel she should try to reach out a bit more. However, I wanted to hear from other peoples' perspectives. I realise she may not be in a position to support a friend even a bit.
Thank you!

Why has she withdrawn completely? Are you saying she's withdrawn because of her issues?

I believe that she has withdrawn because of her latest issues. We have a mutual friend too, whom she has not been in touch with much.

I'm sorry about your issues, and I'm really glad you're getting help for them.
But it sounds like your friend isn't in the right place (mentally) right now to be able to give you what you want. I think you need to give her some space and look at developing friendships with others.

Thank you. I have other good friends who have been very supportive. I just really miss spending time with her.

Sorry, just to add: I thought friendship was a two-way street where both parties need to try to understand and help the other. I do appreciate the advice, and will give her space if that's what's best for her.

Maybe she would like to but just can't at the moment.

Often when people don't live up to our expectations it's because they can't, not because they haven't tried. Maybe consider whether you might be in a place at the moment where you might be inclined to be a bit over-sensitive and predisposed to assume the worst.

Whether you keep on making contact or leave her be, I would try to give her the benefit of the doubt.

OP I am older than you & have had depression for a long time, including at uni

Yes, you would usually have expectations of what a friend might or should do

But in the grips of the worst of it, that all goes out the window. You may miss her but depression leaches your motivation for anything, even good things

Check up on her via text if you can, tell her that you miss her and enjoy spending time with her, but leave it at that

You really can't make or wish someone to be different, they have to find the willingness to change

Yes, friendship is a two way street, but not necessarily all the time. There are times when one person does all the giving and other times the other person does all the giving. So it is a two way street over time.

So give her that time. Give her some of yourself, when you are feeling strong enough to, but don't cause yourself to relapse. Eventually if she comes out of it, the friendship can go back to being two way.

Thank you all for the responses. I agree that I can be a bit sensitive. I think I'll just give both of us some time. It's hard when our needs are different, and yes I think I can sometimes be unintentionally pushy.