My husband works 7 days a week and around 15 hours a day. It's his own business, running for two years, and he loves it. He has taken on enough work for three people but won't get staff because he doesn't see any need to cut down on what he does. He is abroad with work every fortnight and when he is we get just one text a day, because he is too busy.
We have two children - an 8yo with additional needs and an 11 month old. My husband freely admits he enjoys work more than family life and would rather be in his office than in the house. He has a 'my way or the highway' attitude which, as we all know, really doesn't work with kids. He helps me out with the kids for around an hour a day.
We've been together 14 years and I just feel like a very different person now. I try to always put others first, care about my family etc. I enjoy work but it's not number one however the irony is that I cannot work as he is away too often for me to get anything stable. We did the same degree and my career sustained us for a long time so this is a real bugbear for me.
Im wondering if we are reaching the end of the line and that separation might be best. He can have the life he wants and I can make a life for me and the kids that is not always waiting for him and being let down by him.
But am I expecting too much? Is this attitude common among men? Should I continue to try to make things work as it's easier to be together like this than it would be to be apart. Or do I rightly think that this attitude is not right and that I shouldn't just accept it? But if I walk away I'm alone (I don't have any friends and family are a long way away) and I just watch him prosper.