Is it abuse

[Shellmed]

Hi this is my 1st post an I feel sick writing this but here it goes
A few months ago when I was drunk my husband filmed intimate details of us having sex the next morning I half remembered and asked him to delete as I was embarrassed about it and didnt like it he said he had and that was the end of it.
Last week he blindfolded me even though it was night time anyway. During sex the blindfold slipped down slightly and for a second and I thought I saw a light under the cover but wasnt sure. It's been playing on my mind ever since so today I finally confronted him about it he admitted to filming me again and didnt ask cos he knew I'd say no. I asked to see his phone even though he said it had been deleted. Once I started scrolling through he confessed he still had another video of me when I was drunk. Right now I feel so violated and sick I've been crying and shaking since finding out. It's my sons bday party tomorrow so I want to be ok but I dont know how to be right now. I'm already on medication for depression and anxiety and i dont know what to do. Part of me is thinking go the police and report him but my heart still loves him hes my husband and i dont want to split up my family. My heads a mess and I'm so confused I'm angry hurt upset and I cant think of anything but this. Any advice would be really appreciated

What he has done is indeed a violation of you as a person and this is also repeated behaviour from him. You know of two video images already, there may be more than two also.

He may well be the root cause as to why you are on medication for depression and anxiety.

Your heart needs to play catch up with your head, what he has done here is not loving towards you but is about power and control. I would report him to the police as soon as possible even though he is your H: what he is doing here has not been done with your consent. He has made these videos for his own thrills and could well also have shared these with others.

He is no husband to you now nor a decent example of a father to his son.

hi i could have wrote this myself, i was in a simular situation last year with my ex ...we had an argument and he wouldnt leave my house, we was in my bedroom at the time anyway to cut a long story short i fell asleep as i was in bed already and i suddenley woke up and caught him videoing me under the bed covers, i felt sick to my stomach and was hysterical, screaming and shouting at him...how could you do this! i felt so dirty and violated by what he had done ...i know exactly! how you are feeling, im so sorry that you went through it too ....in my opinion some blokes do this cus they think they are controlling you by making you feel like shit and deflated ...dont let him do this to you ! i grabbed his phone off him and smashed it into little peices and boy didnt it feel good ...im not suggesting for a minute you should take this action but you need to show him that you are not going to be controlled or violated by him anymore ....they also get an ego boost by doing stuff like this to you ...take care x