Background: my parents divorced when i was a child, over my dad having an affair. Mum kicked him out...had quite a difficult time when I left home for uni and when anything difficult happens mum has said 'just leave it and come home' (e.g. when exams were hard or relationship- it's always about me coming home to her)
Dad is also difficult in another way, he has not met anyone else and turned up here - moved nearby, makes comments about things like if my DH is cooking after work- tells DH odd things like 'thanks for looking after her for us'...it seems with both they still see me as a child needing looked after and who should really be home with them.
Things became increasingly difficult over the years and I'm now very low contact with both of them sue to them (individually) being demanding and critical, making up lies to DH's family (including saying I'm a 'drug addict' when i was very ill, and then going to DH's parents to say stuff about him...just meddling really. I can't trust them, my brother and I have both had to keep our workplaces secret as mum with call them etc..
I was recently reading adult children of divorce are more likely to get divorced themselves and I can understand this, as well as not being great role models mine are also very needy now they are apart and look to me as their adult child to help support them.
Maybe it would be different if they had moved on to new partners but not sure. I wondered if this was same / similar for others and how their parents marriage / divorce impacted on them.
With DH's family I see his parents seem more supportive of us, and it is also easier as they are together and support each other so possibly need less from their children. They also see everyone as adults making their own decisions and don't get involved in the same way.