Anyone else going no contact.. toxic Rship ?

[Lau247]

Hi

I’m currently trying to go no contact from an on and off Rship of two years that has become toxic no children involved.. I am on day 11 not a word from him either.

First week I felt better and a sense of relief but I’m having a bad day today and have nearly cracked.. but I won’t. I know he’s not good for me yet I really do miss him.. I live alone most of my friends have young children so sometimes it’s hard to keep busy especially on the weekends as today I’m just here alone..

Just wondering if anyone has any tips or is in a similar situation

Xx

Ime getting under a new man can help get over an old one!!

@EasterBunny Lool works for some but tends to make me feel worse the next day

Been there. You say 'toxic', would you say he has a personality disorder? For me, watching youtube videos about people who have been in similar situations helped, 'melanie tonia evans' on narcissists is good. I think once you have truly accepted how vile these sort are, it really helps you remain no contact, because you want nothing to do with the soul sucking leaches anymore once you can see it.

Problem for me was the anger lasted long past being over it. Even now it boils up sometimes. But what's always helped me there was putting on some music and having a good dance around the flat until im knackered. I think the endorphins help. Plus if you do that when you are considering contacting him, you'll be too tired to do so after you've danced about xD

Good luck on your freedom voyage!

@teaforthewin well I wouldn’t say he’s a narcissist I’m not really sure what he is it’s more he is very immature promises to make changes even little small things that he knows upset me and doesn’t do them hasn’t been there for me when I’ve needed him will no compromise what so ever everything is his way and what he wants the list goes on.. I say toxic because our arguments became very toxic with bad things said on both sides and I think it started to effect both our mental health.. but I’m not sure wether I would say he is a toxic person I guess our Rship has become toxic if that makes sense?,

But thanks for the advice I like the dancing idea !

X

I'm currently on day 1. Well done on 11 days.

Lol

• Says one thing and does another
• Hurts you and doesn't care
• Isn't there when you need him
• Can't compromise, his way or the highway *Hides behind immaturity as an excuse when it's perhaps - just lack of empathy?

Lol you sure he isn't a narcissist? xD
Either way, sounds like it wasn't working :) Think you've made the right move getting shot of him by the sounds of it.

@teaforthewin well
When you put it like that maybe he is lol but I thought they were kind of more controlling cut you off from family/
Friends abusive etc and he isn’t any of them
Things but maybe he doesn’t have all the traits.

But yes either way I am better off out of this situation and need to keep up the no contact !

@serialtester thanks and good luck I usually find the first 3 days the hardest but keep going