Advice

[lifegoes]

I'll try and keep this short, but I think I'm looking for advice or just some reassurance at this point.

Met an amazing guy 6 weeks ago (not long) but we really connected. Talked everyday spent amazing time together. We went away at the weekend DTD and it was amazing. He was so smitten with me wanted to see me again, making plans etc.

Got home and I didn't hear from him (strange) next day I did all lovely and back to him. Then nothing (which going from a guy who was texting all the time) so I thought ok I've been ghosted by a 47yr old.

Next day text him saying I think I could've been shown the respect I deserve, if you don't want this have the decency to say, plenty of guys would want my attention.
He read and ignored.

Later that night I get a message from a young girl 23 who asked me if I'd been seeing him. Apparently a fake Instagram account told her, which has now turned out to be one his friends wife.

She's been with him 3 years yes she's 23 he's 47 👀 she's devastated. She begged me to tell her the truth and I did. I was gutted to hear this. As this didn't sound like him at all. She told me she told him she knew and sent me the screen shots of his texts where he said he needed to meet me to know what he really wants from life.

2 days later I'm still furious with him, I really want to give him a piece of my mind. Something I've still not done!!

But part of me thinks why should I, he'l ignore me and I'll be more furious. The other side thinks I have every right to vent my anger at him.

I'm just stuck and feel so annoyed that he's done this. He knew about my ex and promised he was nothing like that. He was worse than me ex.

Advice or reassurance please?

@Lineofdutysex this is why it was a bit of a shock. It wasn't just a quick meet up, it went on for weeks and then he took me away for the weekend. Even the day after we got back he was fine. But I think he's been busted by his GF before I knew and that's why he hasn't text me back. Now he knows I know he def won't text. But grrrrr I wanna day my part

He won’t face your wrath, that’s the problem. He’ll read part of it, write you off as hysterical and you’ll be more frustrated and pissed off than ever. Plus when you realise he doesn’t give a shit you’ll have lost just a bit of your dignity. Write your letter, keep it, burn it, do whatever you like but don’t send it. I kept s draft of my email, I recently re-read it, it’s not great. Although I needed to write it at the time

That's exactly what I keep telling myself If he thought anything of me, he would have text to even try and explain. But he didnt, I do find it odd he hasn't blocked me (yes I checked today as I have him blocked)

He told his GF he didn't know what he wanted and he had to meet me to find out. Thanks hahaha.

He’s a twat! Just repeat that. You deserve better. Take your anger out on the letter, don’t send it. Then brush yourself off and hold your head up high and continue being fabulous

@JK1773 awww thank you xx

I think writing a letter and then keeping it until you are ready to let it go is a really good idea. There is, sadly, no point in venting to him as he isn’t open to hearing what you have to say.

I did this with an old ex who cheated on me. I emailed him for months and months afterwards trying to find answers. And he kept replying. It just made it harder to let go.

I can look back now and see what a waste of my time it was and how empty his responses were.

He sounds like a prize prick. And the age difference is yuk.

@Notcoolmum I know in a few days I won't care, I think even you have seen me go through this before. I'm stronger to it now.

I'm not upset or feel hurt. I'm bloody damn right angry at him. Who the hell does he think he is anger.

But letter is getting longer at the mo ha

Anger is good. I’m angry for you. What a twunt! X