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[FTM05]

Im 21w pregnant, my partner works away in the weeks and we only have two days together, I had made plans this weekend for us to go out for a date and he ended up needing more money and it put me over my budget for the week meaning we couldn't do what we wanted, which is fine because it's his money... but now he's argued, complained and made me feel worthless all day! I am so fed up of being the one who has to deal with EVERYTHING!

I'm the one who makes plans, I'm the one who pays the bills, I'm the one who cleans and cooks.. I have to deal with everything, last week when he was away I bought lots of essentials for the baby, I really enjoyed... but since he's been home all i've done is cry... he doesnt listen to me... I just tried explaining to him how I feel, and he's stormed upstairs and told me I ruin everything... he wants to drink every weekend which is fine, but tonight I asked him if we could have a chinese, munch and films and just spend time together and that's not good enough for him.

I feel so put on, I feel like everything is left to me... I have to deal with all our bills, buying for the baby, running the house, putting up with his tiredness and moodswings and other personal things in his life... we are supposed to be a team, but I honestly feel so alone when he's here.. I feel more support, love and care when he's in work and that makes me feel awful, how can I become this fun, outgoing person he needs? I dont want to be going to pubs or out on the weekend when everyone will be drinking! why would I want to be in that situation??

Please can someone give me some advice?!

I think u need to think about leaving this relationship if hes like this now he ante gonna change when the baby arrives and believe me having a baby takes all your time and attention u don’t need the added stress and by the sounds of it he’s doesn't care about your happiness. And just remember a leopard never changes there spots that’s a saying I swear by xx

Yes leave before the baby arrives and try to avoid him having parental responsibility because he's clearly incapable of being responsible for anything.

Oh love, aren't you worth better?

He sounds like extremely hard work. And you're going to have enough of that with a baby.

I'd tell him to stop away for a few weekends and give you some breathing space

Wasted 8 years with someone like this get strong and get rid he will make out its all your fault this is a minipulation tactic . He is making you feel crap cause he is not happy in his life . Maybe tell him to leave . You wont be needing the stress when baby comes x

Be honest with yourself. What does he bring to the relationship really?

You have happy visions of being a cute little family unit but right now, he's huffy and selfish and leaving the hard stuff to you. Why would that change when there is a sleep depriving pooping, screaming bundle of attention in the house?

Maybe have a rethink on what you need versus what you thought you wanted. It's easier to cut loose the deadweight now.

Please don't give the baby his name or put him on birth cert either. It will weaken you down the line when things get worse and you do realise you want freedom.