I don’t know what to do

[Mumof3ca]

iv been with my partner for nearly 10yrs we have 3 children together and for the past year or so iv be questioning whether I’m happy in this relationship 1 days where happy and the next it feels like where only together cz we have children, he lost he’s job resonantly and we’ve been arguing a lot I got in contact with he’s mother cz I’m not happy and he’s now going to hers now (in a different country) I don’t know what to do should I tell him not to come bk or will I just wait and c if it’s a break we need and if I decide to finish the relationship should I still bring the children over to visit 😫 I’m so confused

Oh bless you, I would see how things go while he's visiting his mother.
Did you send him packing after speaking to her or was this a planned trip?
Does he know you're unhappy some of the time? If he doesn't it might be worth talking and seeing if there a way back to how you used to be?

Good luck whatever you do, you deserve to be happy.

Dont rush into things. See how you feel while he is away. If you feel much much better without him, tjen think about how you can best end things.

Be very careful about taking the children to visit him - you might find that he and his family stop them leaving with you.

He thinks he’s going to he’s mothers for work, I planned it with he’s mother to go over I didn’t want to end the relationship before he went cz I’m not sure if it’s what I want iv told he many time in unhappy but I don’t think he’s taken it seriously, but I also feel really selfish have I sent him over there thinking everythings fine when the reality is he might not be coming back at all

Thanks the thought of him and he’s family not letting me leave with the children didn’t even cross my mind

Depending on which country you're talking about, I would think VERY carefully before taking the children there. You might be prevented from leaving with them and there would be nothing you could do about it. I think you should have him go and take a lot of time apart to see how you really feel.

Thanks for your advice and the country I’m on about is Dublin , I’m gonna c how it goes how it goes maybe a bit of space is what we need he’s only b gone 2days