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Should I call it a day or am I too guarded?

6 replies

Chociefish · 25/04/2019 21:50

I ended a 13 year relationship 7 months ago which realistically ended late 2016 but because of young children I stayed. I got with my current partner very quickly however we had known each other for several years before we got together. His relationship ended at around the same time and dispite what others think there was nothing between us prior to our respective separations. I have two concerns, as part of my separation I will receive a large sum of money (he is a spend thrift) and I am concerned about his interest in this. Also he still responds to his needy ex. She texts him several times per day sometimes over personal stuff and he is a mupet for responding. They have no children together and his step children are both teenagers. She always seems to come up with some drama on the big occasion eg valentines day, when we go on holiday birthdays etc. Most of the time I suck it up and get on with life but should I be confronting him about this? Words of wisdom please folks!

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MikeUniformMike · 25/04/2019 21:53

You need to step back as it looks likeit's too soon for both of you.

Nothavingfunrightnow · 25/04/2019 21:55

Separate yourself from him. Look after your own interests.

Floralhousecoat · 26/04/2019 00:57

He's way too interested in your money.

He has no boundaries with his ex and is prioritising her over you.

You lack self esteem to and are putting up with his and her nonsense.

This relationship is all wrong. He's the wrong man for you.

hellsbellsmelons · 26/04/2019 08:56

Nope!
Take a massive step back.
The Ex thing is not healthy.
He's not ready for a relationship.
Please concentrate on yourself and your DC.
This guy is not the one for you.

TheBulb · 26/04/2019 08:58

Way too soon for both of you. You don’t trust him, and he’s overinvolved with his ex.

Pinkmonkeybird · 26/04/2019 09:22

I wouldn't touch him with a barge pole!

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