Has anyone been taken back to court to lower maintenance? Feel sick

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Feel sick. Ex husband went off with the OW and now having moved countries and job, says he needs to change periodical payments as "they" (he now has another kid), don't have enough money to pay periodical payments.

His OW does not work, whereas I bring up our two older children and work 7 days a week. I don't have a partner.

Really, truly fucked off that our case has to be opened again and I'm once again going to have to pay more lawyers fees (I'm still 9k in debt from the last round!).

I didn't want a divorce but Ex literally took off into the sunset with OW (he's now miserable ) and didn't even stop to talk things through after 23 years of marriage.

Any warm and positive thoughts please?

Sorry not warm or positive but what an utter shit to do that! He shouldnt have had another child if he couldnt afford it!

Perhaps look at it with a view to getting more out of him? I hope you have last laugh. Get all the legal advice you can. Can citizens advice help? Do you have any scheme with your employer for advice like an employee assistance programme.? Good luck x

Your ex may be in for a rude shock if the only basis of his application is, I can’t afford it. Courts see lots of people who say this and take a dim view, particularly if there are no kids.

Your issue is that he has moved abroad. In these circumstances I would suggest you use this application to capitalise (that is get a lump sum) maintenance when the application goes to court. You will need to get legal advice for this as it is not simple, but you must do it to protect yourself and your children.

Thanks for the advice. There is no chance of a lump sum, hence why it's down to periodical payments until he retires. I "get" that he feels hard done by and the OW who got pregnant whilst we were still married, now wants to live a life of luxury (without working , due to visa problems) and would rather myself and our two older children disappeared off the planet.

He’s a prize twat but, I can’t see why his new child has to suffer.

Yes, he should pay the same but, money can only stretch so far. His next step I fear is to say he’s lost his job and give you nothing.

Good luck OP

What an @ss, hope it bites him in the behind and you get more out of him this time