Legal rights about telling wife to leave home

[Bebo19]

Hi

Just wrote long post on this and lost so v brief:

Situation = Husband and wife and 2 kids
Wife has some form of alcoholism although can stop for periods. Been sending money for over a year to man in another country and completely given up on her family and kids and pretty much ignores them. She had nearly left the country before on several occasions to be with him but keeps getting let down. She can't see he's a con man and just trying to get he money. She does not get involved in anything to do with family and despite husband trying to get her help she continues to carry on. She can earn a small income and afford basic accommodation but refuses to leave house as it's half hers. She basically lives in one room getting drunk. The poor kids are confined to theirs in case the bump into her.

This is causing severe mental stress for the children and husband.
She had been a reasonable mum in past but now treats everyone in house with contempt.

Is there any way he can force her to leave?
Thanks for any advice.

Unless there is recognised domestic abuse to you or the children then no.

No he can't force her to leave.

What he can do is file for divorce and negotiate a financial settlement whereby he remains in the home and she is housed in some other way. Would that be an option?

Sorry should say this is a close relative. Yes that is an option Notsuch but the psychological damage to the kids is ongoing and they are barely coping and can't take much more and that would take a long time, even though it is inevitable. Every day the husband is asked by the kids when she is going to leave - so sad.
Does domestic abuse cover mental stress Hop?

Could the husband and kids leave instead?

The husband and kids might benefit greatly from Al-Anon meetings.
How old are the DC?
DH should get legal advice on this.
As the DW is right - it's half her house as a marital asset so DH will need to find a settlement.

hells the husband is reluctant to make any move as he would not struggle to get a much more than a very small place if that. He is v tight with money and is obv feeling bitter about the situation he is being forced into. But i have said to him at least the kids will be happier in a small home rather than bigger house but miserable. They are 15 and just turned 18. The 18 year old has v little confidence though. Will not leave her room and has posted some very worrying messages on social media. I said get the child to the Dr's immediately but and get down the solicitors but he just waits for any drama to die down and hopes it will all go away.

notsuch he won't leave the house.

The kids are suffering because they are just stuck in this hideous situation. thanks for your advice anyway. I was just trying find an immediate solution so the kids have some respite.

The sad truth is that until the husband himself starts looking for solutions then nothing will change. Someone here could give you a perfect solution, but if the husband is trapped because of his own psychological problems (miserly, bitter and stubborn) he won't act on any of it. He isn't putting his children first at all, is he?

I must say I find it bizarre that the kids are apparently asking when their mother is going to leave. IME children have very mixed feelings about their parents even when those parents are shit at parenting, so this sounds unlikely to me.

So there are two children who have two fucked up parents. Me - I would be asking them to stay with me as often and for as long as possible. They need to get out of that house and that atmosphere. They are old enough to make their own decision to do so if asked.

What a terrible situation. Can the dad seek counselling for the DCs?

The school can help with this. Its damaging for them to be in that environment.

haff exactly what I have said to husband. They are all he has at the moment and he needs to step up and take action. Have been trying to persuade the oldest to come over to stay to give them a bit of respite but she doesn't always respond - probably because she is utterly depressed. The younger 15yr old pretty much lives round her mates which is worrying too. No it's painful to say but it does seem to be putting finances over the kids well being.
sandy I have also suggested filling the school in with what's going on but he just says "yeah yeah" lots of agreeing but no action. They are already damaged and it just goes on. Feel so sorry for them..

@Bebo19 is the oldest daughter who’s 18 still in full time education or does she work?

If she’s 18 and working she should be entitled to some benefits. If she’s not working then she can claim universal credit.
It might not be much money but it would be money towards a small flat somewhere. Perhaps then the 15 yr old could take refuge there! Unfortunately unless the father goes through the proper divorce proceedings route, he can’t claim back half the property. He has no legal right to throw his wife out.