I thought I was the only woman... turns out I'm the other woman

[babyblue32]

I'm gutted and feel like the worst person in the world.

My and my LO dad arnt together anymore, we haven been since I found out I was pregnant. He's 9months now. About two weeks ago.... I found a social media account (came up as suggested for you) it's only him. And he's only bloody married with two kids.

He's got a whole secret life. Once I found this I did some digging .... he took the time to delete and block me from every account he as that hi/ real life is on. All so I wouldn't find out.

Well know I now. She has to know! I don't want him back, I don't love him. But I would want to know. Wouldn't you? Well I messaged her. But it hasn't sent. Now he's ignoring me to. Has said he won't pay anymore and he'll cut my CM massively.

Anyone ever been in this situation being the other woman and thinking you were the only woman. I feel terrible.... but I really didn't know.

Well, the message I sent finally did deliver but was never opened. But apparently it can be deleted and read and I wouldn't know.

I've written a new message, and have it ready to send. I think adding her then sending would be the way ... I just feel like .. what if she's already seen the message and hasn't spoken! I'm so worried she'll think ok out to make her life difficult I'm not. I just want to know she knows... if that makes sense?!

His regiment won't take kindly to the affair (I hate saying it it brings me to tears), I don't want to make his or her life hell. But the army neee to be aware. He shouldn't be allowed to carry on with this.

After I outted him he was still trying with others girls (I've seen it)

He does need to be stopped in his tracks.

He's now not said a word to me since .

I always end up worse off with him

From experience the army don't care. They say their soldiers should be in debt nor have affairs but as the ex wife of a soldier who was plunged thousands of pounds into debt by him the army basically said "fuck off" to my solicitor, CSA (it was before CMS took over) and even the court while trying to divorce.

I would message her once more then move on. Nothing good will come if repeatedly trying to contact her.

I was her. I didn't listen. Then it all came out when I was ready to hear it. I too was the other woman but he left his ex-fiancé, married me and had 2 kids but never changed his ways.