Feelings for a dr at my GP

[Candykissws84]

Hi ladies,
So I have started feelings for a gp at my surgery his not my gp but I've seen him a few times. His a bit awkward around me and a bit dipsy the kind of way when ur attracted to someone and dont know what to do. I've not been attracted to someone this much for a long time i really don't know what to do i don't wanna feel like this and want it to stop as i cant get him out of my head. He went out of his way to see me at an out of hours apt, after not been able to at my surgery, yes he was just doing his job but when i saw him there was sparks there, his not in Any way been unprofessional with me or made me feel uncomfortable in anyway. I'm at a loss as to what to i really want to tell him but I know I can't i don't wanna risk losing my gp surgery as they are really good. I also don't want him to lose his job either.

@wigglesniggles what a fantasic idea im only at work 3 days a week now since habing my little girl 8 months ago but as I am senior border enforcement agent im sure i could use this as one of our customer relations tasks

No need for that penguin

Leave her alone ffs.

I think you do know what do about this. Absolutely nothing at all. Change surgeries if it is that bad.

@thestuffedpenquin when you have been up for over 48 hours and cooking dinner and have a baby in ur arms then tell me about a basic English course! Your question mark is to far away from the close of your sentence. So before you try to say things to others maybe look within yourself first. Just saying.

Also this was not about English... so keep your negative comments to yourself unless you have somthing nice to add.

Yep no need for penguins comments! As i said I'm used to ignorant people with my job!

He's not interested in you.

Are you no longer with baby's father? Could you be feeling low and misinterpreting kindness for something else?

Unnecessary penguin comment,
just ignore, i had a crush on my breast surgeon

Lol well done for pointing out the question mark candy what a fuckin dipstick!

We split up 6 months ago after being together for 20 years. It was a mutual end we are good friends just grew apart we were together since we were 14

Also no im not feeling low im happier than I have been in years my children's dad is an amazing dad and friend we just fell out of love but as i said we are still friends in fact his my best friend

Aw OP ignore those nasty posts. Some people have nothing better to do than kick people while they’re down. It’s a nasty trait but hey ho, live and let live!

I know how you feel, I had an enormous crush on my gp and ended up minimising several health issues out of embarrassment. It’s really common to have a crush but in this case you need to stop seeing him and move on for your healths sake. I know it’s hard but for your dc’s sake you need to put your health first. What if you develop toilet issues or a breast lump, you can’t ignore those!

I'm a healthcare professional and when you're in that uniform and in professional mode - no matter how attractive someone is it just does not register to see a patient as a perspective date. You have a big professional boundary up and I think thar goes for most healthcare professionals. Plus it's really not worth the conduct referral anyway. Hate to be harsh but most GP's go for fellow Dr's. Sorry to be pessimistic

Thanks so much for ur advice I am ignoring the nasty stuff.

That's positive that you're doing so well.

I'd think about your crush as a type of transference. It's not unusual in therapeutic relationships, which a good GP patient relationship should be.

www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-therapy/201206/clients-guide-transference

OP, you’ve provided quite a lot of potentially identifiable information about yourself. Heathrow isn’t that big a place and you’ve told us what job you do there, your title, you work part-time etc.

Yes I have but wanted to be open

And i doubt the object of op's affections will be reading this

He might well reciprocate.. If so I'd let him make thar known before you do. I feel for you actually. There has been some harsh replies

Very harsh, it's ok tho. I am not going to act on my feelings just wanted to get advice really on it as I felt there was a spark on both ends.. I just don't want him to lose his job etc... so wanted advice on how to handle it as his not my gp. I have a named gp and it's not him

Any GP who would act on an attraction he felt for a patient is neither a GP you want nor a prospective partner you want imo. Sorry OP. I hope you meet someone lovely soon.

@Candykissws84 you sound very needy but also sad. You have been through a lot, you already know he’s not for you, it would just embarrass you both. But instead have you considered other ways of meeting men and moving on?

I've had a crush on my doctor, I knew what it was and just dealt with it until it went away. I think sometimes someone acting kindly towards you when you're having a difficult time can make your feelings towards them a bit off the mark. I know that you said that your break up with your ex was amicable, but it's still a big life change

Not a GP

He was on an interview panel for a job & we also had a mutual friend.

Having caught up with some updates I think you probably need more time.
Good luck