Has anyone got back with their child’s father and it worked? Confused!

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Hi everyone I have an almost 1 year old to my ex partner we split when the baby was just a couple month old and I moved on into a new relationship and am still with that partner currently.

I was heartbroken but I left the relationship because I felt so unwanted he was there right through but we were told early in the pregnancy something was wrong with our child then she was born premature and I didn’t feel supported and was so so depressed then once we split things got nasty I had to find a new home and we haven’t really seen each other apart from just for contact for our baby.

Recently we have been laughing and joking over text message and reminiscing about good times and we are getting on well being civil for our child. However the last few weeks he has said he would do anything for us to be like we used to be and tbh I think I feel the same. The guy in with now is lovely too and I am so confused. I’m not doing anything at the moment as I am fairly happy with my life but

Has anyone got back with their father’s child and actually ‘lived happily ever after’ ...

How about not being in a relationship at all for a while? You've jumped from one to another and evidently don't love the one you're with.

Why not go it alone with your baby and take things slowly with the ex, see if it can work without diving in headfirst. What's the rush?

He's playing with your head. You're happy, he's trying to ruin it for you. It's who he is.

You've already seen his mask slip, when your baby was ill. He was so nasty that you had to flee the home with a baby.

Go low contact, child basics only. Keep his head working tentacles out of your head.

What happened when things “got nasty”?

It’s easy to reminisce and have a few laughs, you do have a history, but if you are back with him I believe it would be the same as it was before so think about thy. It sounds like he didn’t support you when you needed it.

I do agree with the first poster, youve gone from one relationship to another and want to go back all in the space of your baby only being one.

If you're even considering your ex, then it's only fair you finish it with your current partner as it's not fair on him.

Take some time out for you and bubba. If you do feel you and your ex are going to give it another try, you need to ensure you've both changed for the better in order for the relationship to be successful. If it's not going to be a strong relationship, it won't be fair on your little one. So don't rush into things with your ex purely for the sake of your little one.

Communication is key in any relationship. Look at where it all went wrong and what can be done in the future to prevent you splitting up.

My ex and I broke up a month before our baby was born. When she arrived, we hastily got back together and failed to discuss where it went wrong and what strategies we could put in place for it to not happen again (Communication was one of our main issues). Because we didn't talk about things, the relationship broke down within 2 months.

Just a thought.

My ex and I broke up a month before our baby was born. When she arrived, we hastily got back together and failed to discuss where it went wrong and what strategies we could put in place for it to not happen again (Communication was one of our main issues). Because we didn't talk about things, the relationship broke down within 2 months.

I agree with this. My DH have had issues in the past and split up and got back together (this was before we lived together and got married and before we had any children and we were much younger) and I firmly believe the reason some things were not resolved sooner is because we didn’t communicate properly and we just split up when things got tough (as I say we weren’t living together or anything) and then we’d miss each other and be back together a few days later but didn’t actually discuss the issues and resolve them.

As PP said if you are serious about this then you need to have a frank discussion with your current partner and then speak to your ex to see if you can resolve things maybe even discuss couple counselling but you can’t do any of that without your current partner knowing what is going on