Codependency - how did you recover?

[Getmyfrownupsidedown]

Trying to focus on my self worth and I was just wondering if anyone has positive recovery stories from being copendent?

Thanks for the tips on here. I’ve just discovered my Dh is being abusive and has narcissistic dad and sister. Assuming that means he will be? All a bit of a mare tbh and a lot to learn. I’m glad am now at the stage of learning about co dep and what I can do for me , rather than struggling to understand him. Either way, it’s taking up too much of my mind and time. Bugger! As if life wasn’t hard enough. What have I done?!

Thanks lockcodger and all of you for such a lot of clear info.Finding that cycle, Penelope pink, off another mn was So Helpful.
She also put me into surviving narcissism with dr les carter on your ube...which is brilliant

It was pointed out to me that his behaviour was a bit iffy, 3 years ago! But it’s so subtle I couldn’t believe it. It wasn’t actually till I posted on here and all you lovely mns said, ‘Er...yes it is abuse’ . Keep posting the tips! Sooo useful

I honestly feel as if I've been married to a con man! I was 100 0/0 taken in by him and he used me until he was board! Then spat me out.
I now see a very very different picture I was so taken in so (co dependent) I totally lost who I was, my needs were not important.
Having young children has ment he is still in my life, I don't dance to his time anymore and he hates it. I've had to let go of a lot mentally to untangle myself and it continues to be very hard. I'm still to some degree stuck in the cycle of abuse but it's a lot less now.

oh, justmeandthekids, do keep typing. It's lovely to vent, and lovely to learn off each other xx