3 years on - still not over ex. Aargh!

[ItsPaul]

I know this is so ridiculous but after more than 3 years on from getting dumped by the woman of my dreams, I still think about her and her daughter every single day of my life!

It's not like I don't do anything else with my life. I have friends and socialise often. I have hobbies and interests and have moved on with other relationships. I read at night and watch TV shows to take my mind off things.

But no matter what happens, I keep thinking about them both. They are constantly in my thoughts and very often in my dreams at night too.

It does my head in! I know there's absolutely no chance of getting her back and I wish I could just stop thinking about them. But I can't. And I don't know what to do cos it makes me so unhappy and sad.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you.

You need another purpose in your life besides romance. By a purpose I mean a cause you really care about, a goal, something that brings you joy. I think there is emptiness in you that you’re looking to fill with this woman, it’s not really about love.

You say she is your dream woman which is really sweet but sounds like you are putting her on a pedestal. A dream woman should make you feel loved and return your love. This sounds one sided and like you are doing all the loving and missing.

Talk to someone about this, true masculinity is seeking help and having the courage to be vulnerable and open up. It’s abour being secure enough in yourself that you don’t have to be tough and closed off. Really open up to a trainer professional, don’t let this takeover your life and stop you meeting someone great.

I guarantee you are worth real love with someone great, someone in the here and the now.

Exactly what @Mummylovesbags said ✅

is there no chance of getting back together at all? Sounds like she was the love of your life.