Too much attention!

[namechangeragain1]

I have fallen very quickly in love and I just want to text him all the time to tell him I love him and miss him. How many times is too many? Will it irritate him or will he think it's nice?

I know everyone is different - but what's your view?

Nothing grows in shade OP. Give him space. Imagine this in reverse, he’d be accused of love bombing and you’d be told he’s got more issues than Vogue.

You’re in the lust bubble, enjoy it but, don’t ruin it.

@AFistfulofDolores1 made a very valid point.

If, after 4 months, someone texted me all the time saying how much they loved me I'd feel hemmed in. It would come across as needy/clingy - things I hate.

Having checked out your other thread I think you should probably stop saying you love someone you can't discuss your relationship with. Perhaps back off a bit?

Every now and then is nice but a lot is very clingy and needy, which soon makes the relationship feel like a burden.

If he doesn't always reciprocate, you are doing it too much already. It's lovely being in love but your bf knows you are, you don't need to constantly remind him.

You need to calm down a bit. Nothing wrong with telling someone how you feel, but not constantly, it'd drive most people mad. Maybe get a journal and write down all your feelings so you've expressed them.

I think he would find you annoying and desperate. And he might run away or tell you to chill out, which will probably hurt your feelings and make him feel guilty.

This is the guy who hasn't ejaculated with you yet.

Maybe the two things are connected. Maybe you're too full on and it's turning him off.

It’s too much and would imply issues on the part of the sender and receiver. Said frequently it is both needy and manipulative. Frankly a bit boring and meaningless if said every day or more.

Why he accepts it is equally interesting as it shows poor boundaries. From both parties. I would be suspicious of him.

Next tine he’s away, just wait until he texts you first. Let that be your guide.

Why do you feel the need to text him so much?

I think if you’re not sure or know you have a tendency to be too intense/needy a good rule of thumb is:

• don’t start two conversations in a row
• don’t give two in depth statements in a row if you haven’t had one back in between

Really sorry, and I have turned into one of 'those people' on mumsnet lol, but are you sure he isn't married? Or with someone else? Read both threads and just came up as a possibility?