Easter on a beach and coop cabs later

[GremlinDolphin1]

Lots of support when I contacted police about abusive ex but just feeling so sad about it all. I almost miss him but I don’t really.

Watched some videos re narsissism and dependency which are him personified and I have just activated work related counselling service but feeling very alone and vulnerable.

He is coming round to the house with the police this week and I want to leave a list of things I want to tell him but I know I don’t need too! I feel so guilty that I called the police but I had to because I couldn’t keep everybody safe with him here.

Just feeling so sad. Xx

Be out when he collects his things with the police, have it all bagged up and ready to go by the door.

No lists or communication as this is your time to move forward.

That should say Coop Cava!

Thank you ChocMallows, I know, I’m just struggling as I naturally want to communicate all the things in our life that have happened since he had been on bail.

Let him get his stuff, write the list to get it off your chest then enjoy your cava and rip up the list. Write a new one about what you will do next.

No contact.
Write it down in a letter, then put the letter in a drawer and do not send it. It may help to put things on paper, but do not engage with him.

This is YOUR time.
I am divorcing my STBXH....only mine won't move out, so I have had the police here and he still won't go?
I understand your sadness and loneliness, you are grieving for the life you were promised. Sometimes things just don't work out.
You are not responsible for his behaviour or actions.
Think of it this way, why did he behave so badly that you had to call the police? Have you ever behaved that way? No.
So, you have made the biggest, hardest decision already.
Baby steps each day. Whatever works for you.
I write a journal and that really helps me. Maybe you could write your letter in there, and when you look back will be reminded of why you did this.
Please go out for a walk, the library, a movie, a coffee when he collects his stuff, let him think that you don't care, then it will be over.
I'm sending love and hugs 🤗 ❤️
Don't give up, you are as important as he is xx

Thank you for your replies. I didn’t write anything! Xx