Thought there was a spark!

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So got chatting to someone online, he messaged me first. Thought there was a great spark, conversation flowed well, he was saying all the right things. Then he wished me well, said he thought there was no spark though. I asked him what put him off and he said it was no reflection on me.

Why can't they just be honest?

Sometimes that is them being honest. There can be no spark without being able to pinpoint why. Just like someone people just don't like someone but they don't know why. It might not be your fault at all - he might just be seeing what's out there, you won't know his history (he may still be wondering about his ex, etc.)

But he was honest.

Did you actually meet him?

Did you send him a picture? He's probably met up with someone already

It sounds like he was polite and honest. There's not always going to be a spark on both sides. It's not personal.

It sounds like he managed it well. The feeling you felt wasn't mutual.

He was honest! He may have needed more than 2 minutes to figure out he didn't want to move onto a date with you.

He saw pictures before he messaged me, yeah probably met up with someone. No not met him. But I didn't feel that he was being honest because the conversation was brilliant (or so I thought). Surely you don't know if there's a spark until you've met someone. I suppose there could be a number of reasons.

I get what you're all saying. Was just surprised, was really excited and convinced he was! I must've read him completely wrong. I'm normally good at these kind of things!

The dreaded spark!

Chalk it down to experience and move on. He was polite and let you down gently.

Next please!

I wouldn't use the word "spark" but I've often sent messages saying that I've really enjoyed talking (virtually) to someone, wished them all the best but don't feel that we are suited. I dread getting a reply asking me to justify this decision - it could be a "feeling", it could be lack of punctuation/poor spelling or grammar, realisation that the distance is too far for a non driver etc etc.

It sounds as if he was honest with you. Plenty more fish .....