You may remember my previous posts.... Background is... As a family we have had many challenges death poorly kids etc.... After 18 months of hurrendous misery at Xmas I asked him to leave in Jan. For whatever reason we started to get on well and communicate better. Since Feb we have been good. Really good.
After a tiring week he has gone back to the usual. Difficult cold, nasty, controlling in what i can ask him questions about. Parenting together has been a nightmare. I can't do right, if I ask him when x is going to bed he says ask x (he's a kid!) If I don't and control bedtime I'm in the wrong too and he will undermine me with he's ok.... Bla bla bla.
I guess I've just got perspective now. I can see these situations for what they are. He can't .Ake me turn on myself.
So I just called him out and he flipped at me, punching the wall, calling me names, doing impressions of me, telling me my weaknesses.
He said I'm making him angry, I'm causing this.
All in front on the kids. He said he's going out, I said ok. But this is on you not me. I'm not making him angry, he's getting this wrong. He's communicating badly not me. All I am doing is chatting about the kids...I'm the wrong with bad communication apparently.... But I don't think I am. I'm sick of doubting myself.
The kids are now crying and sad because our big family easter lunch is ruined. Because of his inability to deal with tiredness and stress.
I feel we are too weak at the moment to come back from this. I don't know how I feel :-(