Just that really.
Ive recently worked out that my DM is very emotionally immature. Looking back she's always been difficult. Very wrapped up in her own emotions and needs, never there for me (or DB) emotionally. Sulky, moody, unpredicatble, controlling, manipulating, self absorbed etc. Practically she's fine, but she simply can't deal with anything emotional or anything to do with feelings.
She had a difficult start in life, and I don't think her own childhood was all that great TBH so I've always cut her slack for this, however she's getting worse and I'm finding it hard to cope. In the past few years she's started to use me as a sort of emotional sounding board, but it's very one sided and it's not reciprocated if I need to sound off. She complains about everything, usually about very mundane stuff that could easily be changed. She ruminates constantly, but doesn't want advice. Ive tried to detatch and just give yes and answers but she realised, got angry and shouted 'why aren't you listening to me?'
I don't want to listen. Quite frankly I have enough going on in my life and can't be arsed with this shit. And it is shit. She isn't going on holiday this year. Well boo fucking hoo, some people are barely able to pay their bills, have a life limiting illness, lost loved ones etc and she's whinging about crap like this.
Also she's becoming nasty towards my DF. Who doesn't appear to have done anything wrong, other than get older and want to slow down a bit. He can't do anything right though. She moans about not having a social life, but so as not to drip feee she is probably as functioning alcoholic and can't got anywhere without making a twat of herself. So DF and the rest of us are reluctant to do stuff with her. She also lives through DB and I a bit, and resents us having our own lives without her.
Really I suppose what I'm hoping for is some coping strategies to deal with her. Short of cutting her out of my life for good, which I don't want to do.