You need to move on...but how do you get over your 'feelings/chemistry'..

[purplepoppet]

How do you do it Ex DH/DP is a complete ar*e, has treated you badly, but when you see them, you're in knots because of chemistry between you..and feelings. How do you get over and past that to be able to move on?

God knows! but let me know when you suss it out?
Sorry, really not being flippant but I know how you feel and it's shit - I think it's only the bastards in life that make you feel like that tbh........I still go weak at the knees just thinking about my ex boyfriend and there's just no rhyme or reason to it even though I have a very nice dp now - those feelings never seem to go away

I know! It's bonkers...don't understand it at all

Do you have to see him? I think the only way is to avoid him at all costs. Otherwise it's a little like being an ex-alcoholic and expecting to be able to walk past the pub without feeling upset.

I am happily married to DH and have been for nearly 10 years, haven't seen ex-P for around 15 or more years, the chemistry was very strong and it took 7 years and meeting someone else (DH) to get over him, but I would still be a little shaken if I were to see him now.

I think the feelings do ease off in time as long as you don't keep reopening the wound.

I have to see him every week when he sees his daughter I agree it would be far easier if I could not see him...however, that's not an option.

To make matters worse, he seems extremely 'happy' with the situation at the moment. Quite happy doing the part time Dad duties...makes my blood boil, but then when I see him, I get a knot in my stomach...it's completely mad!

I get so annoyed with myself..I need to see him for what he really is and move on...but it's so hard, I think I hope that one day he will wake up and smell the coffee, but that's never going to happen

Do you really have to see him though? Could a third party be present when your DD is picked up/dropped off?

i had to cut contact to the minimum with my ex to be able to start healing....

so he began to pick dd up from nursery have her overnight and then take her back to nursery the next day for me to then pick dd up.... and it has worked out really well for the 2 years we have been split, he has only ever had her during the week,

have been pushed to the limit recently though as he is marrying the women he left us for, and so wants to pick dd up on a saturday morning aznd bring her back on sunday,

so i have got to see the man i used to adore on the morning of his wedding, and i am dreading it to be honest....

there is no easy answer- sorry

god knows, i'm still trying to work that one out wrt my exbf and myself

he was a nice guy tho

I agree, the only way is zero contact, mine recently moved to the other side of the world thankfully - miss catching glimpses of him in car though

I agree it is usually the bastards!