AIBU?

[Tally8800]

Hello all,
Totally new to this so please be easy on me!!
But here goes.....

Living with Boyfriend for around 3 months, together for 1 year.
He had a female friend which he has known since uni (over 5 years or more)....prior to meeting her, boyfriend informs me he has finished girls in the past because she didn’t like them........
I passed the ‘test’ when we met late last year and have since met with her earlier this year (different story!) apparently she likes me but I am under no illusion that she does, I feel like I am inconvenience when they get together, I engage as much as I can in convo etc (difficult when they talk about the good old days and people I don’t know...)
I personally am not a fan of her , my boyfriend is her BFF apparently when she remembers or when it suits/ when it is convenient he seems to be willing to do a lot for her, I appreciate they were friends in uni and go back along way but I just feel he’s being used by her, I have no issue with him having female friends as he has a few others which doesn’t bother me.
I have my reasons for disliking her but this coming week she is due to come up and stay at our house for a gig,
I have basically been made to move to my parents for the night as I have an early start the following day and do not want to be disturbed by drunken annoying people.....
But the thought of her being there is irritating me.ALOT
Maybe I’m just being pathetic by the whole thing and you’ll all tell me to grow up and get over it but here I am

Nope you are not BU. Is his primary relationship with you or his BFF?

She sounds territorial and a bit of a dick. I wouldn’t be at all happy being made to leave my home so they can have a night out, get drunk and spend the night together as friends. Honestly you must trust this guy a lot to do that.

I would not be moving out of my house to facilitate them. Absolute no.

To be perfectly honest, I know he wouldn’t do anything like that.....
I asked him outright if anything had happened between them which it hasn’t and I believe him.
But the closer it’s getting to her coming the more irritated I am!!!

Me neither. Absolutely not on!

I have basically been made to move to my parents for the night as I have an early start the following day and do not want to be disturbed by drunken annoying people.....

WTAF?! Why the fuck do so many people put up with twats like this? He's a dick! He allows her to treat you like shit and you find that acceptable? He's in love with her. BFF my arse. You're a fool for putting up with this shit under the 'cool girlfriend' guise. '

There was a major disagreement regarding this, as they were going to get a hotel but it was getting ridiculously expensive, so unfortunately I folded!!!

I started off thinking you were perhaps being a bit sensitive, it’s rude to keep doing it but to a certain extent it’s normal for old friends to reminisce when they get together. But then WTAF with regard to her staying after the gig. No you shouldn’t move out of your house for the night. If you have an early start then it’s not convenient for him to go out on the piss and bring mates back. Whether they’re male or female is completely irrelevant; it’s disrespectful and he’s treating you like crap. It’s just as much your house as his- say no!! And if you fail the ‘test’ with the BFF as a result then you’ll find out how important you really are to your boyfriend.

No OP - you are not BU at all. I don’t like the sound of her. What is her relationship status?

Recently split from partner

prior to meeting her, boyfriend informs me he has finished girls in the past because she didn’t like them........

For future reference, this is the point at which you tell someone to fuck right off. He’s basically told you that you have to meet and keep her approval for your relationship to continue.

Time to put your foot down and see where his loyalties really lie, she can stay in a hotel after the gig, he can come home, I don’t see any issues with that, do you?

There was a major disagreement regarding this, as they were going to get a hotel but it was getting ridiculously expensive, so unfortunately I folded!!!

Oh, fuck that! 'Quite had enough of all this. I'm out of here. She's welcome to you.'