I have two children, one who is 5 years old and the other is coming up two years old. I work between 25-37.5 hours a week (depending on shifts) and on the days I work I am out the house for 14.5 hours. On the days I’m not at work I’m obviously doing all the child/house jobs.
I have a fantastic husband who works Mon-Fri and is home by 5pm each night. He is extremely hands on with the children and house stuff so everything is pretty fair.
The problem is that our sex life has taken a real nose dive since our first child arrived and it’s never really picked back up. I know things are different when children are on the scene but sex is the last thing on my mind these days.
I feel shattered most of the time as my 20 month old is a horrendous sleeper, sometimes I function on 4-5 hours broken sleep each night and between that and my long shifts at work I feel drained pretty much every day.
By the time the kids are in bed and all the housework bits are caught up on I don’t want to do anything but sleep.
How do you all find a good balance and find time to maintain a good sex life with your partner?
It probably doesn’t help that I still feel a bit self conscious about my post children body and the fact that my underwear selection consists of big pants and nursing bras.
Like I said, my husband is amazing and never makes comments about the change in our sex life but I know he misses it, as do I.
I just don’t know how to get that spark back when life just feels so full of other things, like work, housework, children etc etc that there seems no room for anything else.
How do others do it??