Think OH has cheated again & won't tell me this time

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My partner cheated on me last year. Because we have several kids together I didn't just walk away, but I told him it really hurt and I wouldn't ever be able to forgive him again. All trust is gone now anyway.
Last night he went out drinking and I've got the biggest gut feeling he has cheated again. Last time he cheated he couldn't look me in the eye for a week until he told me. Again, last night he came in, didn't look me in the eye at all and said 'I'll sleep on the sofa'. He kept his jeans on all night with his phone and his wallet kept in his pockets. He never, ever does this. He also said in his sleep earlier 'we can't get into a comfortable position with people walking past', whatever that means! I'm so upset because I just know in my heart he has done something :( I can read him like a book. I guessed the first time and he finally caved in and confessed after a week of lies and distance.
I'm writing this because I want to ask what is the best way to approach him to ask for his honesty? Do I sound like I'm overreacting? If he has done it again obviously I am done for good.

Thanks for everyone's comments.
Some have been a real eye-opener for me, got me thinking what the hell am I putting up with. I've done nothing to him.
I've taken on board everything that everyone has said.
It'll be a hard thing to do but I know I have to leave him.

I had two under 5 and a traumatised 9 year old and I managed. I had to leave him because he was violent and like you, I was scared of loneliness but in the 4.5 years since, I can hand on heart tell you 3 instances where I felt genuine loneliness.

Instead in those 4.5 years I've got a master's, tried out 3 new jobs until I found the right one, tried out 3 houses until I bought the right one and been to Barcelona, Berlin, Norway, Spain and Amsterdam. Next month going to Denmark. I never left the UK in the 10 years I was with exH. I've loved, liked and been attracted to a handful of men but do you know the biggest change that has happened? I like myself again. I'm not hiding who I really am for the sake of a relationship that made me miserable. You'll be fine and you can leave him. It hasn't been plain sailing at all but it has been the right thing for me and most importantly for my 3 DC's. Good luck

Nobody

What an inspiring post :) you sound like you're so happy, and rightly so!

I hope the ok can take some strength from your post when deciding what to do.

Life is for living

Op not ok- damn autocorrect

The best approach? Tell him to get the fuck out... don't live your life with this twat OP. Oh and get yourself tested, god knows what he's been doing and with whom. Yuk

@Nobodyelsewillbethere thank you for sharing your personal experience. I am so happy for you that you are content and have found happiness again in your life, you sound very positive and your post has helped me a lot xx

How are you doing today op?

Thank you for asking @Pinkybutterfly. I've kept my distance from him mainly so I can do some thinking for myself.
He swears he hasn't done anything again and has tried to reassure me that he loves me and all the rest of it.
Still have a bad gut feeling and I've told him this, I guess I am just struggling to build up the trust again after he went and threw away 6 years of it :(

Sorry Op it is really crap not to be able to trust someone.... I really hope you are using condoms... I would have a std check and start thinking about you more. As pp said at this point it really doesn't matter weather he did or didn't cheat. Is the fact of you not being able to trust him.... Just try to do things you enjoy and be calm xx

Trust your gut, anytime I've squashed it I've regretted it.

He's lying.
Go with your gut. It was spot on last time.

I left with 3 kids and a fear of loneliness, and I can honestly say I have never been happier. Yes sometimes it's boring when the children go to bed, but I've done college courses, taken up new home hobbies and made new friends!
Don't fear the unknown x

I recently separated from my husband and after the first couple of weeks of adjusting I was so much happier without him being there! I didn’t get lonely at all. The kids weren’t generally settled until 8.30pm and by then I’d be happy to flop in front of the tv, read a book, chat to friends on WhatsApp or have an early night. It was nice to do whatever I wanted and not feel judged. Unfortunately he has now moved back in while we sell the house

My STBXH cheated too and it’s such a relief to longer have that feeling of dread in the pit of my stomach, wondering where he is and what he’s up to. I no longer care. You deserve much better OP.