Workplace crush I really dont want.

[SaraRyder]

I've name changed for this because it might be outing and this hugely embarrassing and I dont want to talk to anyone in RL about it

I have a crush/romantic feelings towards a colleague of mine and probably had for a while but lately it's getting really intense.

Colleague was married, had an affair with another colleague, they are now together.

I really dont want this crush, it would be embarassing if it ever got out. At my workplace secrets are never secrets for long. His partner is higher up than me and could make things nasty if it got out.

I've been keeping all this in but I need to just admit it somewhere and move on. How do I get over this bloody unwelcomed crush?

I have. That's why I dont like it. I've been that woman, it wasnt nice.

I dont think he is lining the op up. I have a
massive crush on my sons teacher. He hasnt done anything to make me have a crush. It happens, people get crushes.

It’s just run of the mill sexual attraction, totally manageable, especially since you know he’s a dickhead personality wise.

Yeah. Also if he wanted line up his new bit, im sure he wouldnt pick me. Even i wouldnt pick me.

It will pass with time. Being attracted to him was fine, i see a lot of good looking people in my job. Its the distraction it causing me that annoys me and frustrates me.

You sound like you want some kind of validation from him. If the distraction annoys you then just focus on work and keep things business like. You're in control of how you react.

That is terrible, Sara. I’m sorry that you went through that.

Like your ex, this man chose the unethical route. Not such a “nice guy.”

If my colleague “got a bit too close a few times” by touching my shoulders, I would absolutely consider that inappropriate.

Start looking for his faults..
Farts real bad.

Always late..
Never makes the coffee..
Lazy...

hello OP - have you still been obsessing over work colleague?