OH follows a lot of models on social media, should I be bothered?

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Hi I’m a little confused as to how I should feel about my OH who’s in his 30s following a lot of models on social media. I’m not insecure in the slightest or paranoid. But it’s shocked me I’ve only recently found out. How would you feel? I think I might be overreacting
Thanks in advance

Just following?

Unless he’s actively messaging them, he’s simply scrolling past photos these girls / lady’s post. Probably more discreet than the lad magazines he must surely have looked at in the past.

Why are you so uncomfortable with it?

I don’t know. I think it’s just shocked me. I don’t distrust him or anything I’m simply just shocked & don’t know how to feel

I would say to him, "Isn't it odd that it's just young women, perverts and you following those women?"

I don’t think it’s odd in that so many men do the same.
But I do also find that odd if you know what I mean.
My feed is full of funny and intelligent people, some artists, speakers etc.
I think who you follow reflects on who you are.

It's a bit shallow and crap. That's what would bother me.

Depends how you feel about it deep down. Are you getting plenty of time and attention?

Thanks for your responses. I simply don’t know how to feel. I’m shocked I would expect it from him 10 years ago in our early 20s but not now.

This is partly the reason I'm happy to be a single mum and to stay away from dating, despite being attractive.

This would be a big turn off for me, sorry

That would bother me ,it would bother my husband if i done that with guys ,but it may not bother other people.

Bit seedy really

He likes to look at attractive women. It's not unusual. But I'd be embarrassed if it was my OH, in the same way I would be of he gawked at a woman on the street.

It's about discretion.

Wouldn't bother me. My Instagram is full of different people. Friends, work accounts, political, interior design, style, fitness etc.

I also follow quite a few Male celebs.....and it's not cause I enjoy their witty banter in Brexit.

The odd photo of Chris Hemsworth arms isnt a bad thing for me.

Dp also knows I follow Chris Hemsworth and just rolls his eyes. If CH comes on TV he usually shouts 'your bit in the side is on'. I am 37.

But then just cause it wouldn't bother me, that doesnt make you wrong.

Normal for a lot of young men. You may wish to ensure you follow some handsome young men yourself on social media and casually make sure he finds out!

Yeah I don't think it be too happy if my DH did that. I know he looks at pics of beautiful women on insta from time to time (who doesn't) but to be following them... sort of crosses a line. Has he messages any of them?

No I don’t think he has. He just follows a lot of them. Which as one other person said is embarrassing for me. If he was messaging them I wouldn’t of ask the question if currently be packing his things 😂 or burning them on the patio x

OP! Haha! 😂
Have you had a look in his messages / DM's? What do you think you'll say to him about it.

It is a bit sad, isn't it.

I mean the odd look when you're .. in the mood, have just seen someone in a movie and would like to indulge a little passing fancy/crush etc. But actively following them, updated automatically on every post/image or whatever they out up ...?

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Sad case, isn't he ?

How do you have any respect for a man like this ? He doesn't have enough to occupy his time obviously...give him a mop and tell him to crack on instead of making a dick of himself on social media.

So, I follow Antonio Banderas & Chris Hemsworth on Twitter as they’re easy on the eye.

I don’t think it’s grounds for divorce

I'd be cautious OP as I was with someone like this who was close to mid-30s and he was obsessed with finding models and makeup artists to follow (I mean he had no real reason to follow especially makeup artists, being a man) - as far as I thought, he wasn't interacting with them but later found out he would. Any time he wanted the thrill of extra attention or an ego stroke if I was too busy, he'd be there casually throwing a like on one of their photos, a casual comment on their pic complimenting their looks, etc. so can only imagine what he was messaging them in private.

I guess not everyone is like that but I'd say guys who follow a lot of random models etc. are probably more prone to cheating than those who don't. There's loads of stuff online so the fact he gives head space to search out these models and follow them would ring a few alarm bells. Not saying he's definitely looking to cheat/play around though.

I'm with anyfucker....

It's all a bit teenage boy with titty mags

Either he has delusions of grandeur or he's showing you he will exchange you for "a younger model" X years down the line.

Fuck him off to show you are so much worth than that!

If this is what you have been brought up to believe (that you are "not good enough), time to dump him and do some soul searching. Books, internet, counselling etc.

Your future self will thank you.

It would put me off if a guy I love was following loads of models. I do think it’s a bit creepy.