Have you ever got back together with an ex after the arrival of your baby?

[Ohlala19]

Hi everyone

Without boring you all with too much detail, my partner of 8 years broke up with me when I was 22 weeks pregnant with our very first child. I’d like to add that we had been trying to conceive for over 3 years and went through IVF treatment to get our miracle.

The fertility issues definitely had an effect on me and our relationship, and I believe this was a leading cause in the relationship breakdown.

We have been apart for about 15 weeks now. He is not interested in getting back together at this point as he feels he tried to make us work for a long time and that he couldn’t see me changing in the future.

Obviously I still love him, but haven’t pined after him or begged for him back. I have realised that I have been suffering from depression and mild anxiety during the past two years, and have realised how much it changed me. I will be working on being the fun loving, driven person I used to be after I have given birth.

My question is, have any of you ever broken up with your partner whilst being pregnant and ended up getting back together after the birth of your child?

I can’t imagine what emotions we are going to feel when he is finally here but I’m hoping it may give him a bit of a reality check.

Thanks in advance for your answers :-)

I split with my ex fiancé while heavily pregnant, also after 8 years together. His fault though as sadly it was down to him cheating with a co-worker of his. Although, I didn’t actually know about the cheating at first but asked him to leave as he made my pregnancy a very sad and difficult time due to his sudden change in attitude and behaviour towards me. I initially only asked him to leave as it was all making me feel very depressed, hoping that would make him see some sense...it didn’t and then he proceeded to torment me even further with more callous behaviour (he’d acted like a saint and loving partner before the pregnancy so the change in him was a real shock).

It took me a year to discover the affair and before I eventually did, during that time he’d made a couple of half hearted attempts at reconciliation once I’d had our baby. I now thank my lucky stars I found out the real truth of him and the affair that had been going on throughout my pregnancy as I’d started to blame myself and question my own behaviour up to that point due to his lies and him blaming my depression etc. He was in the beginning adamant he no longer loved me, he couldn’t live with me, but would be there for the baby. He also repeatedly swore no one else was involved. So that discovery of OW was the end of it for me, once and for all, after months of false hope and half truths. I had the last laugh..His office affair didn’t last and he often speaks of regret but it was all too late for me.

Your situation is different to mine though and doesn’t involve an affair. I wish you and your baby the best of luck and perhaps you will reunite with your partner but in my experience a baby being born doesn’t necessary change the outcome of things.

I personally think it is quite callous to leave a partner while they are pregnant and looking back on things clearly now, I wish I’d not bothered to even try with my ex after my child was born as it just prolonged the painful experience of acceptance and stopped me moving on for a long time. I now realise it was ultimately a sign of his hidden weak character and I remember thinking back then, if he could do that to me at a time when I needed him most, what else was he capable of doing. I decided I didn’t need or want a man like that in my life.

Good luck with your birth OP! :)