Can you trust again after traumatic relationship ending??

[MINKY75]

I need some confidence inspiring stories and advice please!!!
Had a horrific break up about 14 months ago. He moved on really quickly and made lots of noise about being the happiest he'd ever been and that he wasn't remotely sorry about walking out on me and the kids to pursue this happiness.
Long story short, I took some time to get over it all and am now dating someone new. It's getting serious and I'm horrified to find myself sabotaging it! At the slightest sign of disinterest I'm getting in a tail spin, assuming the worst. He's said many, many loving things but is also incredibly laid back which seems to fuel the fears I have. Has anyone dealt with this and overcome it? Have I moved on too quickly??

No you haven't moved on too quickly, but you do need to take it slowly. Just enjoy the time spent with a loving partner, and try not to expect too much, too soon.

Look no further ahead than the next date and you’ll be fine

I'm in a similar position to you and I can feel some insecurities creeping in due to my ex's infidelity. I'm not sure that personally I'll ever trust again so freely because experience does shape u, whether we want it to or not but i do try and remember that just as all women are different, so are all men.

I also know now that I survived the trauma of my marriage ending so I can survive another relationship ending, especially as I'll never have as many ties with someone else as I have with my ex.

*you, not u!

Sunshineandflipflops that's a really good nugget of advice - the worst has happened and I've survived so I know I'm good for whatever lays ahead. I'm trying not to think of myself as damaged...just changed. Its hard sometimes though. I didn't see any signs of my last relationship going wrong so now there's doom everywhere!! Complete overthinking!!