Great husband but rubbish job

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My husband is lovely but has zero ambition. He has a low paying job and because of this we can't move on with our lives. I have to pay for our holiday ect and it's really getting me as we are trying to concieve and I fear he will get to stay at home with baby whilst I go back to work to pay our bills.

Bless him, he has tried to get other jobs but the skills srnt transferable ( he teaches kids how to play football)

I don't know what to do as I love him but I'm getting resentful. Is anyone in the same situation?

Hmm. A little bit. My DH is a PC and will never apply to get his sergeants. It does frustrate me, as he is always overtaken by younger staff, but he earns £40k, so it's not a terrible wage.

What does he earn?

In US dollars he earns 24k which is crazy because there are 20 year olds at my work earning much with less.of an education that he has (he's 31). Just feels waste of his knowledge

What's the problem with him being a SAHD?

In most couples with children, one is the higher earner whilst the lower earner does more childcare and accepts a lower paid job but with flexibility around school hours and possibly less hours overall.

I think you need to accept you're always going to be the higher earner and work to improve your salary.

there are 20 year olds at my work earning much with less.of an education that he has

IME, an overwhelming percentage of people who go to uni never use their degree. If they are taking a STEM course then it's much more likely that they will, but an arts or humanities degree is pretty much useless unless you want to become an academic.

Common conversation when getting to know people:
"I went to Uni at Leeds"
"Oh cool, what did you study?"
"Art history"
"Sounds interesting. What do you do now?"
"I work in a call centre."

So 24k is 18k is UK money?

My boyfriend is on 22k. Lowish wage and I am the higher earner but he is a lovely, kind man who is very supportive of me and my career.

I think there is more to a relationship than being with a man who is a high earner. Life is more than that.

Yes you may have share parental leave when baby born but so what?

Didn't his job matter before you married him? Or did you think he would become ambitious later on.

I understand how this would make you feel resentful. I wouldn't have married someone on a salary much lower than mine.

I think large income gaps can lead to issues in the relationship and I really didn't want my standard of living to lower, which when you add kids to the mix, it would have done if DH was a low earner.

Even doing the job he's doing, could he not set up a side business on one day of the weekend for extra income?