Online relationship finished...

[GaynorGoodwin]

My friend confided in me that she has been in an over a year long relationship with a guy online .(both married). They live three hours away and have never met. This is the first time she’s ever told me anything like this and I have to be honest I was shocked.

Last night I got a call from her telling me they’d ‘finished’ and she was very upset.

I was as supportive as I could be but it all felt rather weird to me as it just isn’t real. She tells me she met him on a social network site not dating site and it happens often. Whilst I have no doubt it does, then why can’t she see it for what it really was?

Maybe because she is vulnerable, gullable and lonely. Loads of people get taken in with this nonsense.

Nonsense?

Wow.

They can be as intense and real as a real life affair and the connection has probably left her asking questions of her marriage and herself she never expected. She's grieving, and online is hard because they were very assessible and present in her every day life.
She's going to need to talk but please don't dismiss it as not real - her feelings about him are.

I suppose just listen to her.

I couldn't help be embarrassed for her. This is what teens do, not grown men and women.

Yeah grown men and women have proper physical affairs

I'm surprised and impressed they had enough self control not to meet.

Ignore @VirtuallyConfused, our resident affair advocate, 🙄.

Yes it's utter nonsense and she doesn't need comfort or sympathy because she broke up with her online bit on the side, because she shouldn't of had one in the first place.

My ex fell for someone online. They did progress to meeting up in rl but they had already professed love before they met up and the reality didn't match up to the online thing. She had history of doing this.

I'm saying stop judging other people and certainly don't judge your friends for making decisions you can't necessarily understand.

I was as supportive as I could be but it all felt rather weird to me as it just isn’t real

Regardless of whether “he?” Was real or an old man sat in his pants eating cheesy wotsits, she’s a cheat.

She should figure out what’s lacking in her marriage to make her develop feelings for some random man online before she finds another one.