After sex distance.

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Met a guy a while ago. Been chatting frequently. Recently slept together. He’s been distant ever since. I’m aware he’s had a busy weekend with family visiting etc.

Wish I hadn’t got myself emotionally attached almost now I feel stupid. I’m absolutely terrible at relationships.

It’s a non starter isn’t it?

Did you actually go on any dates?

How recent?
And it's only Sunday.

Mid week. I know, I know. I’m trying to calm that little over thinker inside of me.

The best about it is, I’m absolutely terrified of relationships and part of me is glad it’s cooled.

As for dates, yes we’ve never made them a big thing though. Just comfortable little coffee shops, dog walking, drinks etc.

I don’t really see sex as a big deal. Did you use it as a gatepost to what you thought or wanted to come next?

You said yourself, he’s had a busy weekend. Step back and don’t sweat the small stuff

Honestly in my experience if the distance starts it’s the beginning of the end. They get sex then detach.

The twice it’s turned into something more the texting has increased after.
Sorry.

Trust your gut. I’ve never got the sense someone is distancing themselves and been wrong. It’s never worked out. This early on he should be excited to speak to you and wanting to woo you at least a little bit in case someone else takes your fancy instead! He’s a no go.

Don’t worry about the sex part, this would probably have happened either way, guys who meet a woman they’re crazy about could have sex on the first date or the fifteenth and they’d still continue to pursue her and spend time with her because having sex with someone doesn’t put you off them. Try enjoy it for what it was, a bit of fun, and move right on.

Thanks lovelies!

I’m the first to tell anyone to trust themselves and their gut.

Yes our conversation has completely dwindled away. The sex was fun and I had a great night and I think I bloody needed it! So I’m thinking about that as a positive.

As a friend, I’m great. When it comes to relationships.. I avoid them. I tend to overthink. I’m just not ready for one.

I just find it a bit annoying after knowing him for quite a while and suddenly all the banter is gone.