I hate him I hate him !!!!

[looondonn]

There are no words to fully describe what he has done to me

I posted previous threads on here

Went to police last year
They were shocked at the 115 incidents I reported
Many events were extreme

Support officer rang me one day and said she worried there is not enough evidence to convict him
She warned me it would be in public domain etc etc
I was upset and confused so did not pursue it
Hoped he would leave my daughter and I alone

Now

Months later !!!

He has contacted neighbours, friends , family and told them bullS**t about what happened
That I did a runner took his girl
How upset he is blah blah
He is now harassaning me via work email
I reported all this last week but have heard nothing

I hate him so so much now
He is literally ripping me to shreds
For a brief minute earlier I actually first time in my life thought it will be easier to end it all
Most likely depressed with PTSD


Please don't think you'd be better off ending it. You wouldn't. Besides anything your DD needs you. Perhaps you should see your GP in case you do have depression and need treatment. Keep on reporting your ex to police if he does harrass you as there are laws against it.

If you are feeling particularly low and unable to cope please call The Samaritans free on 116 123 for a chat. A problem shared and all that.

Thank you

Would never end it
Just had a moment earlier of thinking how much more damage can he do
He feels he has done not one thing wrong
I am the criminal
The bully
Angry bitter person etc

Just so crazy
Wanted to escape
Live peacefully
Say very little to others

Now

He flipping has contacted around 8 friends / neighbours and family
Telling them such nonsense
That they need to help him as I am such a monster

Each day I get a call from someone saying he has contacted them
Some are now wondering why I treated him so badly

Anyone who's truly with you will believe you OP and anyone who doesn't, remove from your life.

Are they really wondering that? I wouldn't be.

Him contacting them shows a disturbing lack of understanding boundaries and normal adult behaviour and most people know that arseholes tell lies.

If I'm mistreated I don't contact the perpetrators friends or neighbours.

Keep some perspective

Keep reporting him ask friends and those he contacted to do the same

Honestly, people will get the sense that he's not right from the way he's behaving. They won't want to say so to him necessarily. For any who don't tell them the police are involved and you can't go into it all but the full story would be very different to his version. That does challenge but in a way that will make you sound much more stable than him.

Yes so true

I person he contacted is a family friend - my GP !!!

She rang me earlier and is now really upset
He is lower than scum

Looking for a sympathy vote and to get me in trouble

Went back through the WhatsApp feed earlier and he has admitted the crimes from last year so at least that may work in my favour
Annoyed the support officer put me off from pressing charges
I thought I had plenty of evidence

I don't know if I saw your previous thread. If I did I didn't post on it not that that matters.

All I wanted to say really is who gives a fuck what that evil person says! you know the truth and anyone in your life worth their salt will not bat an eye at the lies he tells!

If anyone does listen to him or makes you feel they believe him or question you then they weren't the person you thought and they do not deserve a place In Your life!

How can 115 reported incidents to the police not be “enough” to convict him or at least enforce a restraining order against him?!! What are they waiting for? Him to comit murder or kidknap your child? Lunacy!
Keep reporting the incidents to the police from here on in and get a restraining order put in place this time and don’t ever reply to his harassing emails.

He is deluded if he thinks people who care about you will believe him.
Hold your head up and walk proud.
(I speak from experience)

Deep breath and go back to the police and keep on until they do something.

Talk to your GP/friend. Ask her if she needs to remove hersself as your GP, tell her you are disappointed that she felt it necessary to further burden you with her feelings at a time ewhen you are trying to field his harrassment and lies.

Good luck

Him admitting it is pretty good evidence, if you give details everyone he has contacted should be asked to give statements, give it all to police and press charges. Don't worry about inconveniencing anyone he's already done that

Don't be put off by 'advice' from anyone this time, even if you don't get a conviction it will make a conviction more likely next time.
After the police speak to womens aid for advice/support and let everyone know you want any injunction/restraining/non molestation order that you can, don't wait to be offered, make it clear you want everything the police and courts can give you.
That's what it's there for, use it

Thank you !!!!

Will keep you updated
Reported again
Waiting for a call back

Need to go back to station next week for full statement

Rang my neighbours earlier they are all so upset about this

He is causing me to lose my mind

Plus I have no idea how he found all the telephone numbers

Thanks again
Got a very very helpful policeman earlier

Also spoke to some great people at WA

Exhausted

Feel like I want to hide in my bed for a year