Petrol station man

[Cherryblossom200]

Hi all,

I’ve come on here to get a bit of advice! This is so cliche so please bear with me, but I pulled up at my local petrol station this morning to guess what, fill up my car with petrol. My DD was in the back and normally I pay no attention to what is going on around me. But a guy who was very much my type pulled up next to me to fill up his car. We shared fleeting glances but again I didn’t think too much into it.

I ended up in the queue to pay right behind me, we ended up chatting and he seemed very friendly. Asked what I was up to today, he mentioned he had children and asked if I had any. I ‘thought’ he liked me. BUT I’m crap at knowing whether someone is interested or just being polite. For all I know he could of been married (though I saw no ring 😉).

Then my bloody car alarm went off so I dashed outside after paying.

He came following shortly afterwards, so I rolled down my car window and said goodbye and drove off.

😝 I will forever wonder what ‘could’ of been with petrol station man! Ha ha, but seriously what the hell does one do in a situation like that?

You hand over your card and say call me if you fancy a coffee one day.

it's easy... :)

I wished I had! But I guess like a lot of people I’m scared of rejection! So silly really.

@rememberatime slow down, people still have cards??

Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Fill up there next week at the same time?

You hand over your card and say call me if you fancy a coffee one day.

That would have been a smoooothh move! 😎

Bet you bump into him another time. Have a card ready 😁

I think it’s highly unlikely I will bump into each other again. The only thing is that the station is in the area I live, so if he is local I may see him again randomly.

I’ll take the risk next time, I’m just really annoyed as those types of meetings don’t happen very often.

I don’t have business cards either 😆 I need to get some 😂

Might be worth a post in Metro's "Missed connections" section?

But YYY to getting cards printed if you do any kind of freelance work. If you don't then it would look a bit wanky, but practise saying "So do you fancy a coffee sometime?" and if he says yes then give him your number, or ask him for his and text him there and then so he has yours.

Vistaprint usually have offers of 250 free business cards, just pay for postage ;)

Cards really only exist for these types of exchanges and are strictly for those of us aged over 35!

But if you think about it (and quite seriously) cards are a great thing. You don't need to add your address or your workplace. Just your name, what you do for a living and your phone number/email. There, you have everything he needs to know about you to start a conversation and you haven't needed to interact almost at all.

A friend of mine did exactly this at a motorway services to someone who had been driving next to her on the motorway and giving her the eye... so it is her smooth move, not mine! And yes, he did call.

I think no to cards, but I like the just asking if you wanted to go for a coffee idea. Less formal. Ah well, next time 😩

He dropped in very quickly that he has 5 kids, I was shocked and had a joke about him not looking old enough and laughed about him needing the big car. He drove a Land Rover which initially I thought was a bit wanky but now sort of get it.

I've also seen my daughter in action (when making new teenage friends). She asks if they're on Instagram and if they want to message her there. Then she physically takes their phone and puts in her details to their contacts!

To me that seems the height of rudeness - but apparently perfectly acceptable.

Oh and what is metro missed connections 🤔 I may have to take a look! x

The Metro is a free newspaper which is distributed on public transport in the south. (Not sure about north of the Watford Gap!)

They have a section called "Missed connections" which is specifically for people to post stuff like "Red headed girl with purple rucksack. I helped you get on the tube at Victoria on Monday. Fancy a drink?"

I know the Metro paper (I’m originally from London) but didn’t realise they did a missed connections bit. Thanks 😊 I’m out in Essex now. Not sure it’ll reach us.

I was thinking about using the local Facebook page, but all my friends would see it so I couldn’t do that.