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How do you cope with loneliness?

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Vick67 · 14/04/2019 16:43

Just after some advice..

Been struggling with loneliness for what seems like forever now but it has only been affecting me so badly as of recent, and when I mean affecting me I have never felt so low before.

I'm mid 20's and have a DD, work full time so she goes to nursury but its an unsociable job so I don't get a chance to meet people that way. Just feel very lost at the moment and wondered how people cope in my situation. Id enjoy doing a few clubs but they all seem to be in the evenings when I have my daughter. I don't have family who can look after her so I have her 24/7 and the father is absent so cannot watch her. I basically never go out and it makes it worse that I constantly see people my age having fun on social media.

Just a bit stuck at the moment. I feel like I'm awful at making friends and have always felt like the odd one out whenever I have had somewhat of a group of friends. I'm not sure whether I may have some kind of social anxiety but I feel like I do suffer from anxiety in general. I've also had a fairly crappy upbringing without strong relationships which I feel has affected my ability to grow close attachments. Its quite strange though as I seem to get close to males and struggle with females and because of this I only have a few male friends and whenever I speak to people it's males flirting which makes me feel worse as they usually only want one thing.

To make it worse all my relationships have been awful with either abuse or cheating and it's left me feeling like I can't ever get a loving relationship that I'd like or close friends. I just feel like I never fit in with anyone anywhere tbh, I'd love to just be able to make friends and find partners like the vast majority of my age group seem to be able to do.

Sorry for the negativity it's just hit me hard and I don't how much longer I can deal with feeling this way. If anyone has any tips that'd be really appretiated x

OP posts:
Sunshineandflipflops · 14/04/2019 16:49

Sorry you are feeling lonely.

Have you thought about a change of job to sometbing where you might meet more people (male ot female)?

Do you work full time of could you get to any toddler groups near you once in a while?

I don’t know how old your daughter is but once she starts school you might find you meet more people. I was never really a ‘playground mum’ as I was usually working but when my dad started school I was lucky enough to be able to do the school
run 2 days a week and me and her best friends mum hit it off and are still good friends 9 years later.

Sunshineandflipflops · 14/04/2019 16:50

Auto correct! When my dd started school, not my dad!

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