Deed poll

[GrandTheftWalrus]

Had anyone changed their name by deed poll then ended up getting married?

I'm getting married again mid next-year. Legally my surname is still my nasty ex-husband's which I hate! So plan is that instead of changing it back to birth surname and then changing again when I marry, I'm just going to change it now. Basically I'm db'ing to new husband's surname + birth name. Saves the hassle of changing it twice!

Yes. What do you need to know?

If you hated having a name associated with your Ex, why didn’t you change it earlier?

I'm using my maiden name again but some places insist on my married name because my passport is still in married name.

However I'm changing it by deed poll to my partners surname but we are still hoping to get married.

Would it not look strange us both having the same name before marriage?

However I'm changing it by deed poll to my partners surname but we are still hoping to get married.

Does that translate as you are hoping to get married, so you're doing this because there's really no other action you can take off your own bat?

Because if it really were a case of 'we' hoping, then that's easy. You just get married. Quick reg office do if necessary, if you can't afford a big day yet.

The answer to your question is no, it won't look odd - people you don't know will just assume you are married.

The answer ot the questions above are; if he is stalling on getting married, changing your name won't make a difference to him. Having a baby and giving it your surname, however- watch him get that marriage licence so fast his feet won't touch the floor.

We aren't stalling on a wedding just funds are tight and I thought changing my name the now would be quicker so I can get everything changed to his name.

We also already have a dd and she has his surname.

Think the deed poll is about 50 quid and the cheapest wedding is 185.

And yes he wants to get married as hes already asked me.

I basically want the cheapest way to get shot of my ex husbands name. Then we can get married next year.

We would only need about 500 for a nice wedding as planning on it being just us and my parents and our daughter

Deed poll is free, don't pay £50!

freedeedpoll.org.uk

My mum hated her maiden name and changed it to my fathers surname as soon as they got engaged (married about a year later) so yes you can do that if you want to

Ugh need witnesses that aren't family etc. No idea who to ask for that.

But thanks for the link! He paid for a deed poll many years ago so I assumed they all cost money.

Registry office and 2 witnesses costs £185?

So you'll end up with the deed poll costs and the wedding costs won't you.

There are thousands of women who have been proposed to and are still engaged years later, with no actual plan to marry, because he's stalling.

There will always be something else to spend the money on.

I'm glad it wont look silly if I change it. I basically want either my name changed or married by October next year.

Its 125. I looked at the wrong one. But that's a room for 4 people. The bride & groom and the 2 witnesses. But I dont know if they'll let the little one in as well or if we will need to pay the 185 just for adding 1 person.

We are going to go into the registry office and enquire about that soon. If they will let 5 in we will just do that instead of me doing the deed poll.

And hes not stalling at all. I assume you are thinking that because I wrote hoping to get married?

I'm really shocked at 125 just for two guests! Is that normal or are you in an expensive area?

That's the registry office in Glasgow. So I think that's pushed the price up. When I married my ex it was 77.50 on a Friday in south Lanarkshire but that was in 2010.

It's in the city chambers etc so again might be pushing the price up.

That also includes everything like the marriage license etc.

need witnesses that aren't family etc. No idea who to ask for that
Me!
I live in Glasgow, not far from city centre and i've never been a bridesmaid or a witness

Right you'll do!

Na if I we can get 5 of us in the room for 4 itll be fine