Deal breakers

[OldAndWornOut]

Can I ask what would rule out a relationship with someone?
Are there things that you most definitely wouldn't want in a potential partner, which would put you off as soon as you met?

Misogyny

Went on a date with a guy who sat there with a face like a smacked arse while he harped on about how terrible women had been to him. That they were all ungrateful bitches and gold diggers.

Goodbyyyyyye!!!

A guy who had cheated in a previous relationship. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Wouldn't be able to trust him ever.

No heavy drinkers for me.
I let that boundary lapse for the first time with my ex, but I won't be doing it again.

Over the years I had very high standards and plenty of dealbreakers. No job, lives at home, house/flat/room/car a tip, really into footie and hanging out with 'the lads', tight, kids, still married (nope, none of that 'separated' crap, I was divorced, and wouldn't date someone who wasn't single), anyone who said he was 'old-fashioned' or 'traditional' (warning, he's a raging misogynist), heavy drinkers, anyone who used drugs, body shamers/neggers, any with stories about their 'psycho' ex, gropers/horndogs, lazy arses who always want you to go to theirs or around their area.

Smoking
Excessive drinking
Gambling
Any non prescribed drug use
Excessive peircings/tattoos
Lying
Cheating
Extreme political or religious views
Low/absent libido
Obesity
Rudeness
Dishonesty
Laziness
Lack of worth ethic
Lack of kindness
Sense of entitlement
Lack of trust

Any sign of a bad temper. One day, that bad temper will be turned on you, your pets and your children.

Hmm im not to sure, I wouldnt date someone with children or someone who did drugs

Smoker
Big drinker
Drug user
Unemployed (as in by choice/long term)
Children
Poor with money
Not able to do/cope with household tasks
Poor hygiene (especially dental hygiene)
Brexiter
Liar
Misogynist
Walter Mitty type

Highly paid
Arrogant
Flash car(s)

Eurgggggggggh!

All of the above

Facial hair
Tattoos
Loving sport
Loving dogs
Big feet
Being fat

Misogyny
Racism, homophobia, far right views are things that would immediately end any association with him.

Tightness or excessive preoccupation with money. Ime that's a very bad sign.

Any sort of indication of jealous or controlling traits.

Aggression towards me or others in any form.

Saying negative things about other women in particular ones they have dated.

Preoccupation with gambling (I wouldn't mind the odd scratch card, but anything regular or involving online casinos etc would be an instant killer)

Preoccupation with gaming. Again dont mind a casual interest but anyone very in to those things would not be for me.

Love bombing in the early days of getting to know each other... consider it a very bad sign.

Any interest in hunting animals.

Obsession with sport or fitness would put me off... I wouldn't mind a casual interest in those things but if they were his main focus in life we really wouldn't have much in common.

And I personally would not be able to deal with someone being away for long periods of time so no oil rig workers or soldiers etc for me.

What everyone else has said... I was on a dating app earlier and blocked one persistent guy who had written on his profile:

“I am a busy person so you shouldn’t be surprised if I am not always available to answer your calls or texts. But I will always call you back when it’s convenient to me and my lifestyle...”

-errr married much?!

• A history of violence or aggression
• Any prison conviction (don’t care what for)

-Bad breath or poor hygiene

• What confusedDh and minta85 said too.
• Also controversially(?) bisexuality.

this last one is not “fair” but nevertheless is a dealbreaker and I have declined dates because of it. it stems from some very bad experiences friends of mine have had with bisexual men who transpired to be either serial cheats who couldn’t keep it in their pants or closet gays...
For the record I do not believe all Male bisexuals fall into one of these camps but the sample size I have had first hand experience of did.

In previous relationships I’ve lacked boundaries and suffered as a consequence.

Not interested in
Big drinkers
Drug takers
Immediate trash talking of an ex
One of the lads
Poor is OK but poor with money is not

My controversial one is I’d have to think very carefully about someone with mental health issues. Mine isn’t strong enough to deal with someone else’s. Living with someone with undiagnosed bi polar disorder almost broke me.

All of the above plus
Boring non-interesting conversation/waffle.
Taking what seems like hours and to explain something very trivial or lacking a point.