I don't know where to put this-need support please! Teenager assault.

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14 year old was excluded for pushing my DD into a wall (a well known bully in the school) a few months ago. And recently kicked my DD at the park, I called police and they visited their home, child denied it.

As far as they're concerned the matter is closed, she is known to the police but never offended.

We are going to persue the matter, as we have a witness and potential evidence.

Has anyone experienced similar where the police have not crimialised but you've taken it further?

Thanks.

Check the schools policy and demand a meeting with management and your daughters form tutor
Be nice to the school and want to work with them.
I am an ex teacher of many years. The school will want to help but as long as you work with them. Sorry Its awful. The school will absolutely hate this bully and appreciate you talking to them

Thank you so much. I'm gutted I can't go to sort it out due to the holidays. Thanks again.

Her form tutor rang me after the school incident, he was lovely.

Just feel like I need someone to talk to, we're all fed up. We've also had anti-social behaviour happen at the house, fitted a camera.

Hi OP.

What is the outcome you want?

If it is an outcome from school then you need to have one in mind and also what you are prepared to accept.

If it is an outcome from the police then it will be much harder.

Hi my DD just wants her to stay away from her. We want an official acknowledgement from the police, we want her cautioned.

I want the school to be made aware of the latest incident. And I want her expelled haha but I don't know at which point they expell children.

The police may have a word but I doubt they will caution her. If she has multiple misdemeanours against her they may refer her to YOS. In my experience YOS are shit.

As for the school you can ask that the bully and DD are in different classes but again they will not be able to police the moving lessons or lunch time.

Expulsion is probably a no which you seem aware of

The school will not be forthcoming with ideas to protect your DD so make sure you have solutions you can put forward and a boundary of what you deem an acceptable.

Sorry meant to say, the girl is 2 years above my DD. And yes I'm aware that the teachers can't constantly watch them.

I just want the girl to leave her alone, she's done absolutely nothing wrong.

Of course your DD has done nothing wrong.
Its shit that bullies seem to be allowed to bully while the victim suffers.
I just dont want you or your DD to have expectations and feel even more let down.

Thanks, I see what you're saying. It would be different though wouldn't it if it was one of their children?!

Of course it would.
We all want to protect our own.

I would recommend mediation between both girls. This worked well for my son and i had mediation with the parents. It was hard to begin with as they were instantly defensive. However i put them in my shoes and they were good people they got it.

I really didn't think of that. I'll mention it to school. I want to find out why she's doing it.

Thanks again, it's much appreciated, X

I would string the wee bastard up. Really hope you and your daughter are ok
As an aside, would she consider self-defence classes? Might help her feel a bit more empowered 💪

Dieu something has stopped me doing exactly that, you can't explain how you feel when it happens to your child.

Thanks for the idea, I'll put it to her x

I've been a teacher, in management and a form tutor for years so this is familiar territory . Firstly I am pleased her form tutor was was supportive. That's a good start. I suggest you go and speak to management and the form tutor in one meeting and tell them how you feel. If you need to get upset do....the school will appreciate you opening up. The school will.be professional but they'll also have their views on this girl. She'll be a massive pain in the arse for everyone.
Being excluded is a severe thing to do and schools can't do it without very serious reason. This kid is clearly causing problems.
I guarantee social services will be involved with this child.
You need to ask the school what plan they have in place for protecting your child. They should have a written report to implement this in the new term. They obviously can't share too much information with you but they should be reassuring you and making your dd feel safe.
At this stage mediation is not an option. If it had been two friends falling out fine but your dd shouldn't have to be anywhere near this girl, it isn't appropriate.
See what the school say and do in the new term. If they are any good they will reassure you and your child.
Remember no teacher will want your dd to be bullied or exposed to this. It's unfortunately probably happening to other kids too.
So sorry.

Thank you justlooking , I think I agree with you regarding the mediation, in fact I like everything that you have said.

This is what I'll do, ask for a meeting with the management and tutor and get something down in writing. Also ask how they plan to protect her.