Kids make or break relationships

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I hope this fits under relationships.

Having twins is hard - but I don't know if it's a child thing not a twin thing.

I've given up my work because I hated it but now I feel a bit isolated.

I go to parent and toddler groups every day with them and I am starting to form new relationships.

My parents live around the corner and love seeing the kids but my mum and sister do things together without me sometimes and I feel left out.

The other day I asked them if they wanted to do something but they were tired etc. I don't think they could be bothered with the twins. The next day they did exactly what I suggested but didn't ask me and the twins. I understand that my mum has a lot on her place and she isn't allowed to have her own thoughts/opinions because of my dad but her behaviour hurts me.

My friends are busy and I understand that but it was the twins birthdays a while back , my friend said she'd call but cancelled last minute and still hasn't called and it's 2 months on.

I just feel dropped if that makes sense? It's made me anxious and I think it shows in parent and toddler. Yesterday I apologised that dd was tired when a woman was holding her. Why was I apologising? It made me look neurotic.

I feel all over the place with Easter coming up. Mother and toddler groups won't be running and my husband is working. I just feel like I don't belong anywhere and that no one can be bothered/cares.

How can I get rid of this feeling?

Unfortunately family don’t behave the way you want them too or how other families react. (My mother has shown zero interest in my children) makes you feel like shit that all the other grand parents actually want to spend time with their grandchildren but yours wouldn’t even consider it.

So you are not alone there. You can’t Chang it, but doesn’t mean you can’t feel sad about it.

And friends without babies have no idea and tend to drift away.

And that’s just with one baby, let alone two.

Have you looked for multiple birth support groups? My friend with a girl and twin boys (3 under 3 at one point) is active on those online boards. Was a great resource for her.

Thanks for your suggestion. Is it on here ? The support group?

It may be a good idea for you to contact TAMBA (Twins and multiple birth association).

www.tamba.org.uk/

Cant help you there. The one she is on is in Australia

But a quick look on Facebook shows www.twinsuk.co.uk