Falling for a married woman

[Lilybe]

For nearly a year I’ve had feelings for a friend. I’m a woman in her twenties who had been out as a lesbian for a long time. I always thought my friend was straight but she’s recently expressed her bisexuality with me. She’s married with teenage children but has drunkenly shared that she’s not happy but is too comfortable to leave her marriage and is scared of breaking his heart or damaging her family. She’s always been so nice to me and made me feel great about myself always very complimentary and touchy with me. The last two times we have been drunk together we have kissed but it barely gets mentioned sober. Am I setting myself up to get my heart broken?

Don't be that person. Stop getting drink with her and back off, she has kids. If things are so bad with her husband she will talk to you when sober?

*drunk

Yes you are setting yourself up for heartbreak and it’s totally avoidable.

She is bored of her life and you are a nice distraction to her away from the misery of her failing relationship with her husband. Sorry to say it but your ‘friend’ is using you.

Stop getting drunk with her and only see her when she is sober. If she really wants to pursue a relationship with you, she needs to end her marriage first. I bet you she doesn’t.

Doesn’t sound like much of a friend to me, just a user who wants to experiment with her sexuality within the safe confines of ‘friendship’ and always being under the influence when she does so if you ever told her husband, she would have an excuse.

I would say so yes.

She has no intention of leaving the husband and is using you as an escape from reality.

She’s cheating on her husband and using you. Agree with pps. Only meet sober and don’t do anything intimate unless she ends her marriage.

Terrible idea which is likely to end badly, however tempting it may seem now.

Come on, op, you know this is a terrible idea.

She has told you that she wants all the benefits of her marriage (security, comfort, easier for her kids, etc) and had no intention of leaving. But she also wants to make out with/sleep with you when she's drunk, and then ignore you the rest of the time.

Is this what you want? To be the now and again drunken hookup of a closeted married person who doesn't want to acknowledge you when she's sober? I think you can do better.